Some think they should have wife as priced possession, like a trophy, like an item of Sajavat. They feel they own her. So they dominate her, curb her freedom, want her to not to meet her own parents and friends. They can get furious to any extent to harm her physically and mentally irreparably and finally she is not left with much choice but to committ suicide.
In the year 2011 ( sadly called as modern 21 st century) women are subjected to harrassment, beating, her relatives insulted, husband and her family dictates her on every aspect what and when to do, wear, say , not say etc etc..
So every day we find housewifes are murdered, beaten, harrassed to the extent that they committ suicide etc..
We read news and keep forgetting abt it as we r not concerned till it happens to us. Sachin and Shahrukh keep us busy. Though there must have been some visionaries who must have ensured that govt. makes laws which can punish the culprits and create fear in the minds of criminals ( criminals = those who take law in hand = like wife beating , abusing her, causing mental torture, demanding dowery, abusing her parents, stopping her from seeing her parents and friends .
But I believe laws are insufficient and more stricter laws are required.
It should include all such friends and relatives who have been party to hiding such truth of person which can affect marital relationships which is abnormal physical, mental condition, bad habits, illcit relations etc..
I demand action against parents of suffering women also who send back their daughter to the house where there is a risk to her security. In below given case reported in Times of India on 26 th March 2011 the father of girl who committed suicide now says he was informed of such atrocities on his daughter. But then why did he send her to such unsafe place?? Fear of Social stigma?? Responsibility which he did not want to take up??
I think there should be legal action against father of irresponsible daughter also who sent back her to such man who would not even let her meet her own parnts what more proof of sick mind was required??
And if parents were not stopping her from going back, not giving her dignified place back at her own place and in law specially husband was criminal minded then nothing much must have remained in her life to live on.
So I demand stern action against irresponsible parents too.
I also demand action against those friends and relatives who support thru their actions, words and deeds and support / boost moral of the miscreant man instead of warning him that never such thing should ever happen. I also demmand action against those relatives who advise and cox a suffering girl to bear with atrocities instead of taking action against culprit.
In law not only committing crime but ignoring crime ( anumodana karna) be also made criminal offence.
Also Jain sadhus should stop talking about kanda lasan ( onion garlic) when a more sinister things like wife beating/ harrasing wife/ dowery/ making a marriage a place to rule on girl side and show them down ( in one marriage some brats even insulted small girls for hiding shoes of dulha as per light moment rivaj) some guys make even solumn ceremony of fere a thing to insult/ disobey pandit , some boy side demanded that parents of bride go and plead with folded hand before her parents in law when maariage is just solumnised that they please look after her. Are u giving your daughter to a sane family or to a group of kasai???
I request all Indians to stop this shameful practice and if you have to plead for her well being and safety then better not marry her in that family. Beacuse a slaughter house will remain a slaugher house even if you plead but a honourable house will remain so as they wont ever degrade them selves to such low of taking a bride home with band baja and then make her life miserable.
Hope sanity prevails , laws change, society changes, their priorty in teachings by muni maharaj change and friends and relatives of dulha / groom learn to respect the new realtionship taking place and become part of solumn process in dignified way and not leave scar in the minds of bride/ side forever.
Atleast I have never been party to such a crime , I shall never be. If my son or relative think that way then I will be first person to sever of realtion with them then tolerate crime against women. gather info about my past and keep eye on my acts in future.
And if at all there is a fault in bride/ girl / other side then first talikng to her , if fail then talking to her parents , then even her other close ones , taking help their help . even if that fails then taking help of counselors, relationship expert , finally legally giving up her is the recourse available to all then why should one take law in hand, dominate her, insult her, torture her so that she has to committ suicide?? Go in depression?? Some time retaliate?? etc etc..
But read carefully everyday there r several news of killing, burning, torturing,suicide of married women.
Alok Tholiya
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| MSC STUDENTS SUICIDE Engineer denies marital discord TIMES NEWS NETWORK Mumbai: An engineer from Andheri,arrested for abetting his wifes suicide,told police officials on Friday that there were no problems in their marriage.Liyakat Sayyed (32),the accused,was employed with a private firm in Chakala while his wife,Kadambari Bhosale,was doing her MSc. Kadambari hanged herself from a ceiling fan while she was alone at their rented flat in Takshila society on Wednesday evening. Liyakat claims that he and his wife were happy together and they had no marital discord.His parents too had no problems with the inter-religious wedding, a police official said.Kadambaris family,though,was opposed to the match. Kadambaris father,Dilip,a developer from Pune,has filed a police complaint against Liyakat.He said that Liyakat was torturing his daughter physically and mentally. Kadambari had told us about the ordeal,when she visited Pune six months ago for her brothers wedding.She also complained to us over the telephone that her husband would not let her to meet us and would dominate at home, Dilip said in his statement. He claimed his daughters body after an autopsy was conducted. A local court remanded Liyakat to police custody till March 28. |
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