Monday, November 21, 2011
Sunday, November 13, 2011
Feel free to use delete button and relax .........or read this personal mail of mine..but always feel empowered
We and the people we deal with have developed their personality unknowingly suiting to needs, circumstances, forces of community, samaj, family, neighborhood, places we frequent like college, office, other groups etc etc..
But one day if we find that our life is becoming a burden on self / others, if it is giving more miseries to us and our fellows then it is time to have a relook. Time to change path. Time to say good bye to our such behavior which gives rise to sorrowful situation, change people who make ur life sorrowful or change environmnet u live in which disturbs ur life. Attending following series may help many but many others will keep suffering as they choose to not to change.
Abt my mail which r not addressed to any one or group and are for general info. :
It has become necessary to clarify that I have come much above my own world and my own people so my most mail are not meant for any individual / group or people I know. My general mails go to up to 50K recipients. Most do not react. Some send praises but many other send brickbats too. All r welcome. As said I have come above all that situations.I am unable to think narrowly for the benefit of my own alone so messages which r good for my people are good for others too so I circulate them to my capacity.
But it is right of all to not be bothered by unnecessary mails but be it noise pollution, traffic,marketing calls sms or email and many other things in life are hardly in our hands. Do not crib on such things. At least in my case just write back to me in words (appropriate to ur personality) if u don't want my mails. But if I were u I wud just delete or give command that such mail goes in junk or if I am a busy person then make a folder "read when free" and programme that such mails go to that folder. Many may choose to fwd mails. Their wish.
Also note that on advise of by many others I have started using BCC for individual recipients as same id's were picked up by others and misused ( may be that is how I have some of ur ids). So pl. do not think there is some crooked reason in using BCC.
There r some balanced person who have criticized my particular mails but being balanced ( rational) they have also endorsed my views on other issues / praised my some other mail. And life is like that. Jainism's first big lesson is Ahinsa, truthfulness and second big lesson is Anekantwad. I never feel that others must like my view point but if they choose to debate then they must be sporting enough to read my counter reply. god save me from those who feel my mails are for them alone and that instead of writing back to me their dislike/ issues which I alone can clarify they go and discuss about my mails with others and get further frustrated. For them my advise is "Feel free to use delete button and relax and feel empowered. I do that to my 85% of mails in my inbox and it takes seconds or write back to the sender". ......Alok
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Friday, November 4, 2011
My reply to a counselor trying to help a spoilt child...
[member_cai] (unknown)
I am shocked to read that parents have tried shouting and bashing up. What a way???? I can only condemn that and feel sorry abt children.
Parents have not been friends, well connected , not given enough time and thus children are now with peers and r under peer pressure and friends influence.
Slowly and systematically parents have to befriend own and then other children. And also try simultaneously how to change the environment / cut off from these friends without making it look obvious / offending them.
One of my neighbor who was busy earning and was leaving child at home after long found her to be in same spot as narrated by you, She made a good ground and shifted to Delhi and started living amongst her good relatives and bought a small shop for this boy and now he is doing a very good business.
Be friending a child = bring good books, cd's, take them to picnics, movies of good types, pravachan/ spiritual discourses, buy a hobby materials, offer them various choices of courses form dance, music, personality development etc but ensure there is a right type of crowd where u r sending ur child. There r some educational institutes which r infested with drug peddlers, flocked by who's who 's children who do lots of show off and expenses on friends but make spoil them too. So one has to be alert where they r sending child. etc etc...
Thanks and Regards,
Alok Tholiya
To: member_cai@yahoogroups.com
From: pallavibhurkay
Date: Fri, 4 Nov 2011 10:05:08 +0530
Subject: [member_cai] (unknown)
Thanks and Regards,
Alok Tholiya
To: member_cai@yahoogroups.com
From: pallavibhurkay
Date: Fri, 4 Nov 2011 10:05:08 +0530
Subject: [member_cai] (unknown)
Dear friends,
I have been seeing a (girl) client who is 14 yrs old, studying in class 10. she is very defiant, steals from home, runs away if punished or shouted at, is not open to counseling. her parents have tried talking to her patiently, punished her, even hit her, nothing helps... her parents say that she was stubborn as a child but was manageable now she has friends who are all like her and these children support each other to gang up against their parents. they encourage their friends to not listen to their parents and help them run away from home if reprimanded. All these kids come from a middle class family with loving and caring parents. I met met 3 of the parents and they all seem to have given up the children threaten suicide if they are tried to disciplined. they steal money, gamble, go to hookah parlours and are addicted to BBM which they say was gifted to them by some friends. when parents tried to question them they run away from home...
The parents seem helpless and want to see their children being responsible and gud citizens.
I feel stuck too and would appreciate your help in this matter.
Warmly
pallavi
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