Erectile Dysfunction: Supporting Your Partner

Erectile Dysfunction: Supporting Your Partner

Erectile dysfunction can take a toll on a relationship. It is important to show support and offer encouragement to your loved one with ED. In addition to encouraging your partner to seek medical treatment for his condition, you can help him deal with erectile dysfunction by offering emotional support. Here are some tips:

• Learn as much as you can about ED. Knowledge is power, so the more you know, the more you'll be able to support your partner. When seeking treatment, you and your partner should both agree on a method that best fits your lifestyle.
• Let your partner know that he's not alone. Remind him that ED is a fairly common and very treatable medical condition. ED is not a reflection on his masculinity or a lack of attraction or desire for you. You should also support your partner in any efforts to change his lifestyle (adopting a healthy diet, quitting smoking and the use of any recreational drugs, etc.) to deal with ED.
• Go with him to see the doctor. If your partner is agreeable, accompany him when he sees his doctor. This is another way to show that you're concerned and willing to work with him to treat his condition.
• Remind him that there are many options for successful treatment. If your partner does not succeed initially, encourage him to continue to visit the doctor and explore other options.

As a partner of a man with ED, you are also affected. Here are some tips to help you better deal with the situation:

• Discuss your feelings and let your partner know that you care.
• Stay positive. Talk about what you and your partner want and need, and how to achieve it.
• Try alternative techniques to obtain sexual satisfaction by finding other ways to obtain and receive pleasure without pressuring your partner to perform.

Viagra and its side-effects

Jul 6, 2010, 12.00am IST

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If you think Viagra and other erectile drugs are passport to satisfying sexual encounters, think again. Dr Mahinder Watsa warns you of their side-effects

It's a growing phenomenon to find all health related issues being prescribed a pill. Common cold, a mild headache, to generally feeling down and out, everything comes with a pill to snap you out of it. Sex then, is no exception. Increasingly, we find young men, with no apparent major sexual problem, taking to drugs meant to help the ones suffering from erectile dysfunction. To make matters worse, hardly anyone realise the adverse repercussions of such self-medication. A temporary boost in their sexual performance, may land their long-term wellness in jeopardy
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The fast food generation is slowly forgetting the art of love and depend excessively on easily available drugs to whip-up their flagging sex life. Scientists may credit Sildenafil as 'the magic bullet to help couples have deeper and more satisfying sexual encounters.' But the truth is, the drug doesn't cause an automatic erection. For it to be effective, mental and tactile stimulation and foreplay engagement is required.

Ask the pro

Vatsayana of the Kamasutra fame has suggested many ways to stimulate desire and performance for sexual happiness. He was innovative enough to come up with seven different ways of kissing, eight varieties of touch, four methods of stroking the body and eight sounds that may be emitted during sex and foreplay.

How can drugs, meant to delay ejaculation or correct erectile dysfunction, replace the bond that lovers feel when they touch, kiss, cuddle and care for each other?

Blame your priorities

A survey among youngsters revealed an interesting facet. In terms of priorities, a good career was ranked the highest (by almost 60 per cent), followed by social service (18 per cent) and then a happy marriage (13 per cent). If your priorities are lopsided how do you expect to be sexually satisfied? Sex and love aren't water-tight compartments in a marriage. One aspect invariably affects the other. If you don't make time for your lover, how do you expect to sexually and emotionally connect?

The risk

While overuse of any drug always comes with risks or side-effects, an over usage of Sildenafil can lead to a series of  side effects such as  headache and dizziness.

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 Many mistakenly believe that if they take a tablet, they will perform better. Just one failure at sexual intercourse (which is a perfectly normal occurrence) may land them in wrongly using an erectile dysfunction drug. If they improve their lifestyle, get rid of misconceptions, modify priorities and work on their attitude, chances are that they would never require such drugs.

The real reason

To be sexually happy, one needn't join the 'Erectile Dysfunction' club. One of the following could be your reasons for the occasional non-performance:

• Overeating and being obese

• Alcohol, smoke or drug abuse

• Guilt of an extramarital relationship

• Pressure to perform with an extramarital partner

• Overwork

• Anxiety and tension

• Lack of exercise

• Problems in your sex life can also be side-effects to certain illnesses and disorders. In such cases, relying on erectile drugs can only make matters worse. In many cases, diabetes or cardiac problems are discovered when the person complains of 'sexual problems'.

• At times, drugs that are meant to correct disorders, disrupt normal sexual functioning leading to dysfunction issues. For instance, diuretics, anti-hypertensives and anti-convulsants, etc are known to have adverse effects on one's sex life. As awareness grows, physicians are now being careful during the prescription stage itself. Various studies are being carried out to study the relationship between these drugs and one's sex life.

When it's actually needed

Erectile dysfunction drugs may be required temporarily to regenerate interest. The inability to get a good erection in a young man causes unnecessary anxiety and tension and can even lead to suicide in extreme cases.

side effects of sildenafil may include:

• warmth or redness in your face, neck, or chest;
• stuffy nose;
• headache;
• memory problems;
• upset stomach; or
• back pain.

This is not a complete list of side effects and others may occur. Call your doctor for medical advice about side effects.

If you think Viagra automatically works then u r wrong: VIAGRA only works when you are sexually aroused.Your partner has to stimulate you. You must not have any kind of fear or anxiety and must be fully relaxed. If your testosterone levels are low then Viagra will not be very effective. A fatty meal—like a cheeseburger and fries—can slow your body’s ability to absorb the drug. When this happens, VIAGRA may not work as quickly.WHEN TAKING VIAGRA, KEEP IN MIND:You must be SEXUALLY AROUSED for VIAGRA to work.

Sexual Pleasure with Impotence

Good things usually happen when an intimate couple sees a sex therapist.

What kind of tests might highlight the underlying causes of male impotence?

A blood test for diabetes should be performed along with cholesterol and triglyceride blood tests. It is becoming increasingly accepted among doctors that sex hormone levels (Testosterone) should also be checked by way of a blood test.

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Advise by Alok to person seeking advise for Divorce

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rajkumar software engineer [ Scorecard : 24] PRO CHAT CALL 1 2 3 4 5 Thank Contributor : Send PM	Posted about 8 hours ago
	Hi , My name is rajkumar i am married on feb 2013 , this is my second marriage my first wife was died beacause of health problem. My second wife is a divorse. my second marriage was an arranged marriage only. After the first day of my marriage i feel my wife is not a matured girl. she is behaving like a 10 year child immediately i informed to her parents but they cried and convinced me and my parents. After 2 months now for each and every thing she is depending on me. She is treating me as her father i tried to explain her you are married girl so behave like a woman not like child. Her first marriage husband also not had a s*x with her. she avoided her and he always sleep alone and he never loved so after three months both the family had a discussion and got a mutual divorse. Now  I am every day getting mental torture from my wife. she is speaking the word same words repeatedly example she will tell goodnight for 5 to 6 times in 30 minutes. she is not changing her character if i lost my control she starts crying and repeatedely tells dont leave me i will change , i will change. Oneday she came with her father and brought all her jewels and went to his home. saying she is not ready to live with me. Now i am also not interrested to live with her. so kindly guide me. Share on linkedin
Alok Tholiya self employed [ Scorecard : 709] [edit] [edit photo]	Posted less than a minute ago
	I do not find any serious reasons for u to divorce and ruin home. To keep it happy home u need to approach immediately qualified Sexologist / andrologist/ urologist. On his giving clearance u have to approach relationship councillor a qualified MA psychologist or PHD psychologist.  Their age should be atleast 40+ as u need a proffessional who are not only well qualified but are also holistic and well expirienced.

Can this Peruvian herb improve Your Libido r sex life?

The Truth About Maca and Your Libido Can this Peruvian herb improve your sex life?

By Kathleen M. Zelman, MPH, RD, LD
WebMD Commentary

Maca, the Peruvian herb, generates lots of buzz about its reputed ability to boost libido.

It is revered in the ancient Incan culture for its many medicinal purposes. According to folk belief, it is a plant known for its legendary ability to deliver energy and mental clarity and enhance sex drive for more than 2,000 years.

Does Maca Live up to its Reputation?

Maca is an herb with plenty of anecdotal information about its usefulness passed down from generation to generation. But scientific evidence on its effectiveness is limited.

There are only a few randomized control studies showing some benefit. Researchers are looking at how it may help men and women with low libido. Some studies suggest it may improve semen quality, relieve symptoms of menopause, and reduce enlarged prostates.

A few animal studies have found maca is an aphrodisiac, but major studies are lacking on humans. A review of maca in the journal Current Sexual Health Reportsconcluded "there is no strong medical evidence to support its use for female sexual dysfunction."

Georgetown University Medical Center professor Adriane Fugh-Berman, MD, says, "Maca might have a positive effect on sexual dysfunction. Yet there are so many psychological and social aspects when measuring sexual healing that it is hard to be conclusive."  Berman is the author of 5-Minute Herb and Dietary Supplement Clinical Consult.

Claims that maca is a highly effective aphrodisiac may be exaggerated, Berman says. "Some claims are over the top -- compared to a placebo, maca only slightly enhanced sexual desire. The strongest evidence is that it may increase sperm count and improve fertility in certain men," she says.

Berman, who co-authored The National Women’s Health Network’s The Truth about Hormone Replacement Therapy, says there have been no clinical trials done on women regarding reduction of menopausal symptoms.

Although the evidence may be lacking, psychiatrist and functional medicine physician Hyla Cass, MD, says maca works. "In my practice, I have seen maca restore hormonal imbalance and related sexual desire and fertility in both men and women."

Chris Kilham, author of Hot Plants, says, "Maca enjoys a very long history of successful medicinal use for menopausal discomfort, infertility, and sexual healing. The question is not whether it works -- because we know it works with certainty -- but how it works".  

Maca is an Andean root, referred to as an herb. It's a starchy tuber that resembles a radish or a turnip but tastes more like a potato. Like other starches, maca contains carbohydrates, protein, fats, and dietary fiber. It is also rich in plant sterols and a good source of iron, magnesium, selenium, and calcium.

In Peru, out of necessity, maca has been a staple in the diet of men, women, children, infants, pregnant and lactating women, elderly, and the infirm. Only two crops grow in the higher elevations in Peru: potatoes and maca.

Maca can be cooked and mashed; mixed with milk; and dried, ground, and powdered into something that resembles flour that is used in breads, cakes, and cookies.

In the Andes, people typically eat about half a pound of maca daily, Kilham says.

Is Maca Safe?

A growing demand for maca has resulted in a wide variety of products both online and in health food stores promoted with claims of sexual health and stamina-enhancement. Maca claims, however, like claims for other dietary supplements, are not reviewed or approved by the FDA.

Kilham says the safety of maca is evidenced by the millions of people who subside on a diet of it without side effects.

Berman agrees that it is probably safe since there have been no reports of adverse effects from eating maca.

Maca may be a natural product, but talk to your doctor before taking any supplements. There are always potential side effects, including those from processing.

Kathleen Zelman, MPH, RD, is director of nutrition for WebMD. Her opinions and conclusions are her own.

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Alok Tholiya,

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