Tuesday, December 21, 2010

Active sex life must for healthy longevity.....TOI

An active sex life is the key to a longer life for men only if they are faithful to their partners, a new research has found.

Italian medical researchers have found that a healthy sex life means fewer cardiovascular problems for men.

"What was evident from the research was that men who had active sex lives and were faithful to their partners had fewer cardiovascular complaints and lived longer," the Telegraph quoted Emmanuele Jannini, coordinator of the research, as saying.

"Increased sexual activity produces more testosterone, which leads to less depression and a better cardiovascular performance which means an improved metabolism," said Jannini.

Jannini said the study has revealed that those who were unfaithful had a poor cardiovascular performance because they were "also coping with the increased stress of their infidelity."

She said that an increased amount of testosterone produced during sex was good for men because it burned off excess sugars and reduced the risk of heart disease.

"People who have diabetes especially benefit from a healthy sex life and an active sex life also helps avoid prostate problems for men," she added.

The Italian Society of Sexual Medicine carried out the study.



Read more: Plenty of sex gives men long lives! - The Times of India http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life-style/relationships/man-woman/Plenty-of-sex-gives-men-long-lives/articleshow/6887734.cms#ixzz18o30S5hq
 
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Friday, December 17, 2010

Are u getting mad temporarily but regularly???? Understand anger ..first mail..


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Osho writes better but this time my thoughts . Now a days many corporates keep Course on Anger management. And have found it useful.

Anger can lead to : High BP
damage to property
damage to relationships ( leading to separation between partners/ brothers/spouse/ good staff leaving you etc )
In a fit of anger people have committed many crimes ( unwantingly and then repented) like throwing child out of train for seat / assaulting/ pushing and killing thru car on arguments about parking, jumping out of ..... hitting loved ones who either get severe injuries physical or mental etc etc.
) all out of anger),

This madness though temporary has to be controlled.
All those who get such bouts must see counselor instead of justifying there act of madness. No reason/ excuse  can make u mad unless u r one.It is bad behavior / loose act and is punishable in laws. Yet we do it. Why??
If we can not achieve anything with diplomacy/ persuasion / education then we can not achieve it thru fights.Unknowingly u may cause grievous injury to self or other person in fit of rage. The matter can go to police, court/ bosses/ samaj etc etc and may cost career, peace of mind, reputation etc etc . Instead of taking law in hand let us all ( who r in habit of getting uncontrollably angry ) think of reasons what makes us angry. Where lies the solution.And be reasonable to others.Our own demand/ expectation may be unreasonable and that wrong expectation may be giving us frustration and making us angry.If we ourselves are wrong ( full of wrong expectations) then we are craving for moon which will never be fulfilled. And Lo we r still angry on others for our unfulfilled demands.

Be reasonable. Be cool. Be understanding.have contentment and be happy.

Alok


 






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Sunday, November 28, 2010

Healthy sex life makes men live longer .....THE TELEGRAPH

Healthy sex life makes men live longer

A healthy sex life makes men live longer, according to Italian scientists - providing you are faithful to your partner.

 
Previous research has shown that testosterone is essential for health and wellbeing as well as the prevention of osteoporosis Photo: ALAMY

Italian medical researchers carried out a series of studies as part of the conference, and found that a healthy sex life means fewer cardiovascular problems for men.

The investigation was carried out by the Italian Society of Sexual Medicine who are holding their annual congress in the city of Modena.

Dr Emmanuele Jannini, coordinator of the research, said: "What was evident from the research was that men who had active sex lives and were faithful to their partners had fewer cardiovascular complaints and lived longer.

 

"Increased sexual activity produces more testosterone, which leads to less depression and a better cardiovascular performance which means an improved metabolism."

Dr Jannini said the research has been carried out by the University of Florence on 4,000 men and the study revealed that those who were unfaithful had a poor cardiovascular performance because they were "also coping with the increased stress of their infidelity."

She added that the study had shown a poor quality sex life could also lead to depression.

Dr Jannini added that an increased amount of testosterone produced during sex was good for men because it burned off excess sugars and reduced the risk of heart disease.

She added: "People who have diabetes especially benefit from a healthy sex life and an active sex life also helps avoid prostate problems for men."

Testosterone is the principal male sex hormone and is an anabolic steroid.

Previous research has shown that it is essential for health and wellbeing as well as the prevention of osteoporosis.

The conference also heard how too much time spent speaking on mobile telephones appears to "put sperm to sleep" and can pose a risk for male fertility.

According to the preliminary results of a study by Rome's La Sapienza University and the Santa Maria Goretti Hospital at Latina, south of the capital, "there is a correlation between cellphone use and a worsening in sperm mobility."

Andrea Lenzi, president of the Italian Society of Andrology and Sexual Medicine (SIAMS), said: "The waves appear to put the sperm to sleep.

"The data are, however, preliminary and we are verifying the presence of other factors: people who speak on their cellphones a lot are often more stressed or they smoke and drink more, and that can impact sperm quality."

The study, which examined sperm from men using mobile phones from a minimum of half an hour to a maximum of four hours a day.


 
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Be fit, be active, work out as...

Fitness fanatics 'have high sex drives'

Fitness fanatics really do havbhavane higher sex drives, according to scientists who say they have identified a link between exercise and personality.

They also tend to be more aggressive and socially dominant said Dr Peter Biro, an Australian academic.

He said their findings, which came from studying the relationship between behaviour and metabolic rate in a number of insects, birds and animals, gave weight to the popular stereotype of the athletic "jock" and the awkward "nerd".

Dr Biro said there was enough evidence from numerous studies to suggest that those that had a higher metabolism, and thus tended to exercise more, appeared to exhibit particular behaviour traits that often included a higher sex drive.

"Some of us are couch potatoes while others are drawn to sport and exercise," he said.

"We often associate the athletic 'jock' type or person with being aggressive and social, whereas the more sedentary 'nerd' often is seen as more socially awkward and submissive.

"These are generalisations, but most people would probably agree there is some truth to them."

Dr Biro, a senior lecturer at the University of New South Wales's Evolution and Ecology Research Centre, has written on the subject with Judy Stamps of the University of California, Davis, in a review article in the journal Trends in Ecology and Evolution.

The article concludes that there is now enough evidence to suggest a link between personality and the rate of metabolism – the chemical process that converts food into the energy that fuels the body.

He explained: "Animals in captivity often engage in energetically demanding behaviour when they have unlimited food available.

"Mice spend considerable time on running wheels, for example, and other animals often pace back and forth in zoo enclosures. Given they don't need to move about in search of food as they would in nature, we might ask why they are apparently 'exercising.'

"Recent research suggests that this behaviour might be related to an individual's capacity to generate energy - its 'metabolic capacity'."

He continued: "Male crickets with sex on their mind tend to call to attract mates more and have higher metabolism than those with slower metabolism.

Metabolism and aggression are also linked. For example, it has been shown that in several species of fish and birds, individuals with high metabolism tend to be more aggressive and dominant over those with slow metabolism.

Chris Jones, head of physiology at Nuffield Health, said although there was no evidence of a direct link between exercise and sex drive, there was a link between doing regular exercise and levels of testosterone and adrenalin.

"There is evidence that enhanced testosterone and adrenalin in men and women does enhance libido."

He added: "What's particularly interesting is that exercise also seems to have an effect on stopping the problems that lead to a decrease in libido."

Sapan Sehgal, 27, an instructor at London Fields Fitness Studios, agreed there was a link between exercise and sex drive.

"If you exercise regularly you are fitter, healthier and have more confidence to approach the opposite sex," he said.

"Your hormone levels are also increased."


 
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Tuesday, November 9, 2010

Low testosterone levels lead to Alzheimer’s

Older men with low levels of the male sex hormone, testosterone, are more prone to Alzheimer's disease, revealed a new study.

"Having low testosterone may make you more vulnerable to Alzheimer's disease. The take-home message is we should pay more attention to low testosterone, particularly in people who have memory problems or other signs of cognitive impairment," said Dr. John E. Morley, director of the division of geriatric medicine at Saint Louis University and a study co-investigator.

Led by Dr. Leung-Wing Chu, who is chief of the division of geriatric medicine at Queen Mary Hospital at the University of Hong Kong, researchers studied 153 Chinese men who were recruited from social centers.

They were at least 55 years and older, lived in the community and didn't have dementia.

Of those men, 47 had mild cognitive impairment - or problems with clear thinking and memory loss.

Within a year, 10 men who all were part of the cognitively impaired group developed probable Alzheimer's disease.

These men also had low testosterone in their body tissues; elevated levels of the ApoE 4 (apolipoprotein E) protein, which is correlated with a higher risk of Alzheimer's disease; and high blood pressure.

"It's a very exciting study because we've shown that a low level of testosterone is one of the risk factors for Alzheimer's disease," said Morley.

The findings corroborate findings in previous studies of older Caucasian men that show low testosterone is associated with impaired thinking and Alzheimer's disease.

They suggest that testosterone may have a protective value against Alzheimer's disease.

The next step, Morley said, is to conduct a large-scale study that investigates the use of testosterone in preventing Alzheimer's disease.

The researchers encourage studying the effectiveness of testosterone replacement in older men who have both mild memory problems and low testosterone in staving off Alzheimer's disease.

The study was published in the Journal of Alzheimer''s Disease.

Read more: Low testosterone levels lead to Alzheimer's - The Times of India http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life-style/health-fitness/health/Low-testosterone-levels-lead-to-Alzheimers/articleshow/6697279.cms#ixzz14pknWBjb
 
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Friday, October 29, 2010

For heart patients

Sex and Heart :  by Dr Piyush Jain  Doctor NDTV....

 

Sexual activity is a normal human instinct, which protects men and women against feelings of isolation. It offers them an opportunity to be free of mental stress and tension by gestures such as touching, hugging, caressing and fantasy. Intercourse is the ultimate expression of sexuality.

Heart patients and their spouses frequently perceive sexual intimacy as stressful or even life threatening. Their fears and doubts are often not clarified by physicians and other health care providers, who may also feel inhibited while discussing sexual matters with their patients. Majority of the patients, therefore receive little or no instructions about resuming sex after a heart attack or heart surgery. Those who are instructed frequently don't receive adequate information. Often the spouse is excluded from counselling. Without proper guidance, both patient and spouse rely on their own knowledge, myths and misconception to cope up with their unfounded fears of sexual inadequacy, impotence and death during intercourse.

Sexual problems in heart disease

Male heart patients frequently report a reduction in frequency and satisfaction of intercourse after heart attack or heart surgery. Sexual desire may decrease, leading to inhibition of feelings and failure of erection. Some men also experience premature ejaculation. Yet, such problems do occur in as many as 40% of happily married normal couples too. A strong emotional relationship between spouses lessens the occurrence of sexual dissatisfaction after a heart attack. Relatively few studies have been carried out regarding sexual activities of female patients with heart disease.

Psychological basis of sexual problems

Two primary psychological reactions interfere with resumption of normal sex after a heart attack:

  1. Anxiety: Anxiety results from fear of angina or recurrence of heart attack during sexual intercourse. These fears are frequently based on ignorance about physical demands of sexual activity, when to resume sex and ways to prevent to treat the symptoms. Another contributory factor is patient's perceived change in body image, leading to a feeling of being less of a man or a woman.
  2. Depression: After a heart attack, many people experience a moderate to severe depression. It prevents the patient from resuming normal; emotional ties with the spouse and may also lead to a decrease in libido. Occasionally, it may cause impotence.
Spouses' responses Forced dependency in hospital setting during a heart attack or surgery may lead to erosion of feeling of self worth and sexual attractiveness for a while. During this time, the spouse can provide much needed support. In reality, many spouses themselves undergo considerable psychological trauma during this period. They wish to reassure their spouse of their love and affection, yet feat the worst. This naturally comes in way of resuming normal sex. Lack of communication or covert communication only helps to reinforce the anxiety of both the partners. The matters may be complicated when the spouse also begins to grudge his/her continued responsibility.

Physical effort of sexual intercourse with spouse is comparable to climbing a flight of stairs or walking briskly. Therefore, most of the people should be able to return to their previous level of sexual activity after recovering from a heart attack or CABG. Here are some practical tips to regain a normal sex life.

  • Communication with your spouse This is the first and most important step in resuming a normal relationship. Heart attack or major heart surgery is a stressful experience for both the partners. Recuperation after home coming is the right time to pick up the threads of life once again. An open discussion about apprehensions and anticipations may be more important than the act of sexual intercourse itself at this stage.
  • Getting started Cuddling for a while without worrying about performance is desirable. Hugging, touching and caressing without penetrative sex and orgasm require very little energy. These may be resumed soon after reaching home. An affectionate gesture this time is good way to express your love before moving on to sexual intercourse.
  • Time to resume sexual intercourse Sexual intercourse is like any other physical activity. A general rule of the thumb is that sex may be resumed when it is possible to climb 1 0r 2 flights to stairs with angina or breathlessness. This generally means 4-6 weeks following an uncomplicated heart attack, and a little later after heart surgery.
  • The environment Sexual intercourse should be resumed in familiar surroundings, in a relaxed and restful environment. Room temperature should be comfortable. Extreme temperatures place more stress on the heart.
  • Don't skip the foreplay While it is never a good idea to cut short the foreplay, it is especially important during convalescence. Besides enhancing enjoyment, foreplay also allows a gradual rise in heart rate, preparing for sex in the same way as warm up stretching exercises prepare for aerobic training.
  • Desirable positions Whatever the position adopted during sexual intercourse, it should be comfortable and permit free breathing. It was previously thought that when the patient was in bottom or lies side to side rather than the top, the rise in blood pressure during intercourse is less. Little isometric effort is involved in these positions. What should be avoided is supporting the body on hands, when on top.
  • Things to avoid Digestion of food increases heart rate for a while. Therefore, sexual intercourse should be avoided for 2 hours after a heavy meal to minimise strain on heart. Sex should be avoided when either of the partners is extremely tired, tense, angry or under time pressure.
When sexual intercourse is not advisable If sexual intercourse precipitates severe angina or breathlessness on more than 1 occasion, or when even modest physical exertion precipitates irregular or missed heart beats or ECG changes, it is desirable to resume sexual intercourse after optimization of medical therapy.

Causes of sexual problems in heart disease

  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Preexisting sexual problem
  • Concomitant stroke during acute heart ailment or heart surgery
  • Atherosclerosis of aorta or its branches supplying blood to penis
  • Physical deconditioning
  • Alcohol and tobacco abuse
  • Some therapeutic drugs
Sometimes sexual problems encountered in heart disease are caused or aggravated by certain medicines. Some medicines known to cause sexual difficulties are spironolactone, beta blockers, thiazide diuretics, statins, anti-depressants and sedatives and anti-anxiety drugs. Personal physician is the best guide to assess whether particular medicine is responsible for sexual problems. If identifies with reasonable certainty, the offending medicine may be withdrawn. When a medicine is absolutely essential, sex may be scheduled when blood levels of the problem medication are low, that is, about 6-8 hours after dose of the medicine.

Conclusion

Sexual intercourse after a heart attack is not a risky Endeavour. To the contrary, it is normal, also to be desirable and healthy provided it is undertaken with a familiar partner. If someone can walk on a treadmill, climb 2 flights of stairs at a good pace without breathlessness, palpitations or chest pain, his physical condition is good enough to resume normal sex.
 

 

Sunday, October 24, 2010

7 must-know sex secrets

Guys, here's your chance to know the seven sex secrets women wish their partner knew



A good talk is a great aphrodisiac

Many women find talk a great turn-on. For them, talking and feeling loved are very important. Good conversation during walks or while the couple is relaxing can be a great aphrodisiac. A man could tell his woman how much he loves her, which acts as a reassurance that he is with her mentally during those intimate moments.



Many women are anxious about their looks

For a couple that has been together for long, sometimes it is natural that women may feel that their partner may find them less alluring. Because of this some women undress only under the cover of darkness. Caring men can sense such anxieties. There is no need to lie and say she's gorgeous if she isn't, nor is there a need to say that she is not attractive anymore. One can always appreciate and praise what you do find attractive.



For a woman sex isn't separate from rest of her life

On the other hand, men tend to compartmentalise, feeling that stressful aspects of life can be parked mentally and separated from sexual activity. Women need good feelings and experiences during the day to have satisfying sex. How her lover treats her out of bed, greatly influences her response in bed. Inattentiveness, harsh language, rude tones, hurtful words, and criticism can make it difficult for a woman to get involved, feel enthusiastic and be passionate during sex.



An orgasm is not a necessity

Many men feel that a good lover is one who can bring his woman to climactic sexual culmination. It is great to have such moments, but aren't always essential. Many women feel pressure from partners and even from themselves to reach an orgasm. Sometimes instead of having orgasms, women prefer to engage in just foreplay.



Sex need not be a serious act

Playfulness is a great quality. Many men are far too serious about sex. They forget to laugh, be romantically mischievous, have fun. Playfulness and light-heartedness can make intimate moments enjoyable and relaxing. This takes performance pressure off from both partners.



Women cherish non-sexual touching and tenderness

Women love romance, cuddling, hand-holding and kissing. But many women complain that their men never do this except during foreplay. A woman should make her man realise the joy of touching. As you give him a relaxing massage and stroke his face and hair tenderly, he starts experiencing the joy of this kind of non-sexual touching. Tell your man what makes you feel loved.



Warm attention after sex is important

A woman's need for tender moments goes beyond the actual lovemaking. Some women complain that men fall asleep immediately after the act. It is true that when a man is having sex, his endorphin level is very high. Almost immediately after ejaculation, he goes through a refractory phase where he loses his erection and all his systems gear down. In females this phase happens gradually. However, if you don't like him falling asleep immediately, tell him without putting him down. Alternatively, let him sleep in your arms for a few minutes and gently wake him up afterwards.



(Dr Rajan B Bhonsle, consultant in sexual medicine and counselor)







Read more: 7 must-know sex secrets - The Times of India http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/Life-Style-Relationships-Man-Woman/7-must-know-sex-secrets/articleshow/6780851.cms#ixzz13I1fuAZk

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Friday, October 22, 2010

Keep her happy .....in turn have a happy life.....Bombay Times ..23/10/10

Keep her happy


Keeping your woman happy is just the beginning of changing your relationships for the better.Here are a few relationship tips for men on how to keep a woman happy...


LITTLE THINGS COUNT


If you know she needs help with something,just do it without asking because she will feel like you really do notice what is going on and she will love you for it.Woman do notice and appreciate these things.

DONT TAKE HER FOR GRANTED


Let her know everyday,or at least whenever you are with her,that she is special to you and you want to be with her and no one else.It really is okay to look but dont make a big deal out of how stunning the woman at the next table is.A woman wants to feel like she is the most beautiful in the room in your eyes,so if you want to keep your woman happy,make sure she feels that way.

MAKE HER LAUGH


Women love men with a good sense of humour even though men seem to think that its good looks that attract a woman.If you can make a woman laugh,she will be much more likely to feel connected to you.

BE SENSITIVE


Try to be aware of how she is feeling because unfortunately woman sometimes go through some emotional days.If you are sensitive to whatever she may be going through,she will be aware of it and will definitely appreciate that you care enough to pay attention.



 
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Sunday, October 17, 2010

Low Testosterone Linked to Alzheimer’s Risk

Low Testosterone Linked to Alzheimer's Risk

Study Shows Low Levels of the Male Sex Hormone May Be a Predictor of Cognitive Decline
By Salynn Boyles
WebMD Health News

profile of senior man thinking

Oct. 8, 2010 -- Low testosterone levels in older men with memory problems may signal progression to Alzheimer's disease or even increase the risk for developing age-related dementia.


 

Friday, October 15, 2010

Fat cells can convert testosterone to estrogen

Fat cells can convert testosterone to estrogen and this can also contribute to a low testosterone and thereby affect your sex drive and erectile function.

Read more at: http://doctor.ndtv.com/faq/ndtv/fid/0043829/How_can_my_low_testosterone_level_be_managed.html?cp


 
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Monday, October 4, 2010

Viagra branded a flop for more than half of male users

Viagra branded a flop for more than half of male users

By Sophie Borland
Last updated at 5:35 PM on 27th September 2010

 

Viagra doesn't work for half of all men who take it, leading doctors warn.

They say the NHS is wasting tens of millions of pounds every year on tablets which don't treat the cause of problem.

Many of the men handed prescriptions by their GP are actually suffering from low testosterone levels, which cannot be treated by Viagra alone.

This is because the impotence pill is dependent on the sex hormone in order for it to work in the first place.

Little blue pills: Viagra will only work if a man already has sufficient levels of testosterone

Little blue pills: Viagra will only work if a man already has sufficient levels of testosterone

Instead, doctors recommend that men should have a simple blood test to determine their levels of testosterone.

If found to be low, it can be easily treated with testosterone pills, patches and gels which are all relatively inexpensive.

The NHS spends around £58 million a year on handing out more than 17 million repeat prescriptions for Viagra and other impotence drugs.

So if half of men have low testosterone, millions of NHS money is being wasted.

Low testosterone is a common conditions affecting 40 per cent on men over the age of 40, and one in five of those who suffer some form of impotence.

Although levels of the hormone start to decline with age, some people are affected much earlier on in their lives than others.

It can also be a symptom of an underlying health condition such as diabetes and heart disease so experts say it is crucial that it is properly diagnosed

Typical symptoms include tiredness, mood swings, insomnia - as well as low sex drive, the reason most will visit their doctor.

But sexual health experts warn that many GPs are simply prescribing Viagra by default rather than diagnosing the root cause of the problem

Dr Geoffrey Hackett, a consultant urologist at Good Hope hospital in Birmingham, and former chairman of the British Society for Sexual Medicine said that men with sexual problems could be "wasting hundreds of pounds on tablets" when their real issue is low testosterone.

'Viagra will only work if there are sufficient levels of testosterone. Often men will low testosterone levels wont feel like sex at all.

'They wont want to take a tablet an hour before they plan to do something they don't want to do.

'They will get repeat prescriptions for Viagra in the hope that it will eventually work.'

He added: 'Everybody thinks that Viagra is the panacea for all sexual problems, it's not. There is a lot being wasted on this in the NHS, particularly in diabetes patients.

'Men for whom Viagra isn't working adequately need to have their cases reviewed. If low testosterone is the problem then Viagra won't be the answer on its own.'

He said that by contrast, drugs to replace levels of testosterone 'can change the lives of patients'.

'I can't tell you how many partners of the patients he has helped come back and thank me for giving me back the man that I married.'

Around 90,000 men in Britain have used Viagra since it first went on sale in 1988

The majority buy it themselves from a pharmacy - at a cost of £55 for four tablets - although they have to first pay for a private prescription from their GP

But men can get on the NHS if they suffer from conditions including diabetes, kidney failure, MS, Parkinson's, polio, prostate cancer, or they have had a severe pelvic injury.

Those who are able to show their impotence is causing them severe psychological distress can also get free prescriptions.

Doctors from British Medical Association have called on the Government to change the law allowing more men to get Viagra on the NHS.

They argued that men who could benefit from the drugs were facing discrimination under the current criteria.

Viagra works by enhancing the effects of nitric oxide, a chemical in the body which increases sexual arousal.

Experts believe that nitric oxide is dependent on high levels of testosterone to function, so without it Viagra will not work.

 


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Thursday, September 23, 2010

Forgiveness/ Kshamavani - A Real Stress Buster....so I too seek forgiveness

Today on Ekadashi Jains will say Michami Dukkdam to all even enemies, those distant, those who have broken relations. Here is why:
 
Sangharsh of thoughts: Should I or should I not forgive & seek pardon.


Subject: Forgiveness/ Kshamavani - A Real Stress Buster


The most humorous thing about forgiveness is that when people forgive someone,
they think they are doing him a favor. Wake up. It's you that is receiving the
biggest favor. Let me explain: Do you know science has already proven that
harbored resentments, hate, hurt, guilt, etc., cause a depletion in your own
system, often leading to disease and self-anguish. It would frighten people to
know how much their pent-up angers and resentments, guilt are depleting their
systems, causing them the lack of peace they blame others for creating. If you
want peace, fun and zest for living, you have to learn to maintain your mental
and emotional nature the same as a doctor helps to maintain your physical. There
are many tools for doing that but forgiveness is the only tool available always
& free.


For those non-Jains, let's not perceive forgiveness & or begging a pardon as
something just religious or spiritual. Look at it in a business sense - smart
business. In an act of forgiveness it's you that especially come out good
because you release that disease-producing energy from your system. These
energies produce hormones that toxify your mental, emotional and physical
system. Forgiveness is just a process of re-balancing your internal energy
distortions to recreate a harmonious flow between yourself and others. The trick
is you have to forgive from the "heart". A common mistake is when people try to
forgive from the "head", then find that the same resentments keep popping up
over and over again. People think they have forgiven others and realize later
that they resent even more. It doesn't mean that you are bad when this happens,
it's just a matter of learning more about your system and, especially, the
difference between the heart and the head. The heart forgives; the head makes
empty promises that do not reach completion. Completion is seriously important
because if you leave a crack in the door, negative thoughts and emotions can
blow it off the hinges. Heart intelligence clearly helps you to understand that
forgiveness and seeking pardon are especially for your own mental and emotional
maintenance.


One would persue anything for own benefit. I'm not implying that forgiveness
doesn't benefit the other person but you are the primary beneficiary when you
forgive someone. And if you realize this then you will have more incentive to
complete the act of forgiveness at the heart level & this will benefit the other
person too as it causes relief in other person too who is most often your own
near & dear one. Then, everyone wins! It's okay to forgive someone for
self-benefits because you have to love and respect your own energies before you
are truly effective in facilitating someone else's needs. The prime message is
that forgiveness is not some little churchy act you put on to do someone else a
favor. It's both parties that receive an increase in their energy bank account.


Forgiving and forgetting the old hurts and hate & guilt from your system is like
taking a mental and emotional Ganga bath. You bath regularly your body but
forget to bath soul/conscience & store negative toxic junk in your mental and
emotional psyche for years without a clean up. Trust me, it taxes your system.
It's really the mental and emotional bath you need daily. That's where your
happiness and quality of life are registered.


Yet another humorous situation is that while you are still poisoning your own
system & doing damage to yourself the people you hate or resent don't even know
about it. It's especially you that you are punishing. Again, I'm not talking
religion, I am not talking Jainism I'm talking business - the business of your
own self-health - "streetsense!" It's about preventative maintenance that can
keep the doctor bills down and keep your happiness and fun up. Be careful of
falling in the trap of justified hate because it's really you that's taking the
lashing. If it sounds like I'm overly intent on this one point, it may be you
that needs to hear it one more time so that you might just hear it for the first
time.

Once you really hear it from the heart, here is how you can do yourself a favor,
a big one: List all the people, organizations, issues or anything you hold hate
and resentments against. Then make a serious effort from the heart to release
those negative frequencies from your system and replace it with heart
intelligence. Heart intelligence would ask you, why drain your life and junk up
your system just because someone else is out to phase out his own life? It may
be hard for you to put out love for someone who has offended you but you can
sure "smarten up" and at least release yourself from the negative feedback loop
created when resenting others and yourself. Forgiveness is a featured aspect of
self-management, yet self-management is not featured in most people's day-to-day
agenda. I'm well aware that some situations are deeply rooted with hurt and pain
caused by others. Still for the sake of your own health and the people around
you, it's worth going deeper in the heart and finally releasing that negative
junk. I know this would sound disgusting but there is no more choice. Of course
in some cases you can create an environment & sit down & tell the other person
that you justifiably feel hurt & that he should desist in mutual benefit from
repeating the mistake. However the trick is not to expect him to change but
definitely give him one fair chance to improve by pardoning once. If this
content sparks any "make-sense" within you and you decide to consider forgiving
more and suffering less, then do it from the heart! The heart is where you will
tap the power of care. It's the care that is missing in people's efforts of good
intentions. Care is love in different degrees and potencies. Turn on the shower
in your heart and rain love. Send heart and love energy into the world if you
really want to play an effective part in cleaning up the planetary stress-mess.


Last but not least don't forget self-forgiveness as self-punishment defies
intelligence and especially common sense. Your heart truth would know that
self-punishment can cause more harm to you than the wrong you did. Forget
self-punishment, pick up the pieces, forgive yourself and move on from there.
However very critical point to be noted hear is that you should not repeat such
serious mistakes which caused you feel so much guilty otherwise there is no use
of forgiveness.


Self-forgiveness followed by strict self restraint, discipline, caution,
vigilance brings your mental and emotional energy systems back into balance or
else either you fall sick with guilt biting you from within every minute of the
day or you become shameless hardcore criminal / offender doing the same
offending act again & again. Do yourself favor folks, ease up on yourself. If
you have something eating on you inside, then talk it out, work it out, release
it & improve & change yourself. Just get it out because it's like an energy
vampire guaranteed to drain daily a percentage of your life's enjoyment
potentials.


Forgiveness has been around for quite awhile & some have been practicing too.
However, you can know it in your "head" for years but the knowledge doesn't turn
into wisdom until you have heard and applied it from the heart. Play with it for
awhile and you can secretly realize that much of the stress you have been
experiencing could have easily been avoided. It was just a matter of listening
to and following what you already know. It's actually fun to start experiencing
the power of your own self-management that leads to self-empowerment as you are
then more refined, more alive, more spotless, more attuned & great listener of
your heart. The true kshmavani can brighten up your life even more than a smile.
Why? Because many times smiles are used to cover up what's not cleaned up.


So go ahead, all out give up what suffocates you & your life & forgive & forget
self & others. Have fun with it.


So here, I offer hardik kshama( Pardon) to all & expect the same from you the lion
hearted,


Compiled by Alok Tholiya

N.B.: Person repeating mistake consciously does not deserve any forgiveness &
should be dealt with suitably.

 




'Life is But how to dance in the rain.' .......

PL READ TILL THE LAST

Rain

It was a busy
morning, about 8:30, when an elderly gentleman, probably in his 80s, arrived to have
stitches removed from his thumb. He said he was in a hurry as he had an
appointment at 9:00 am.

I took his vital
signs and had him take a seat, knowing it would be over an hour before someone
would to able to see him. I saw him looking at his watch and decided, since I
was not busy with another patient, I would evaluate his wound. On exam, it was
well healed, so I talked to one of the doctors, got the needed supplies to
remove his sutures and redress his wound.

While taking care of
his wound, I asked him if he had another doctor's appointment this morning, as
he was in such a hurry.

The gentleman told me no, that he needed to go to
the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife. I inquired as to her health.

He told me that she had been there
for a while and that she was a victim of Alzheimer's Disease.

As we talked, I asked if she would be upset if he was a bit late.

He replied that she no longer knew who he was,

that she had not recognized him in five years now.

I was surprised, and asked him, 'And you still go every
morning, even though she doesn't know who you are?'

He smiled as he patted my hand and said,

'She doesn't know me, but I still know who she is.'

I had to hold back
tears as he left, I had goose bumps on my arm, and thought,

'That is the kind of love I want in my life.'

True love is neither physical, nor romantic.


True love is an
acceptance of all that is, has been, will be, and will not be.


With all the jokes
and fun that are in e-mails, sometimes there is one that comes along that has an
important message.. This one I thought I could share with you.

The happiest people don't necessarily have the best of everything;

they just make the best of everything they have.

I hope you share this with someone you care about. I just did.


'Life isn't about how to survive the storm,
But how to dance in the rain.'

 

Every one is getting Older

make  the  best  of  your  LIFE.


Wednesday, September 15, 2010

Advisory for those staying during Marriage ...similar guideliens be issued in time...

 

Advisory:

Those having mobile nos of India not to change the mobile nos.just for saving on Roaming. NRI's pl. give local contact nos by email/ SMS  to all. Let us avoid communication gap.

Do not forget to bring mobile charger.

Hotel will give all routine itmes like nepkin, towel, soap,blankets,mirror,shoe shine,Ironing, tea cofee machine,safe deposit locker in each room etc.

BUT:
Remember our hotel is in remote place. Pl. pack ur daily/ frequent medicines if any,pl. bring along all personal items kit ( like paste,brush,comb,shaving kit, make up kit etc.).

For 5 KM there is no shop.Jaipur city is 15 KM away.Hence this request.As we will not get anything easily if you forget something.There is no bus,taxi/auto facility available near hotel.

Pl. do not ask for transport for personal work etc.. We will have same only for pick up/ drop if informed to us well in advance.
We are not making any arrangement for travel to citi,sight seeing etc..


Tea/cofee/milk/water is available 24 hrs.

Shoe polish machines r in all rooms.

Iron wala/ istri wala is available on 12th and 13th only.

Note we have many doctors in our guests.Contact Aditi Jain / Dr Prakash jain ( 9811262381 ) in case of emergency.

Everyone should keep hotel address and important tel nos. saved in mobile. U may need them. Always keep road map to Hotel with you.

There is a separate arrangemnet for driver/ staff breakfast, lunch and dinner and stay.Pl. do not bring them in our main dining halls.

V. Imp.: Person lighting the lamp is great then Person cursing the darkness.
There will be many lapses and at that time instead of highlighting them , shield them or quitely improve them.We have no expirience or large team limited resources.U r our dear well wisher pl. cooperate.

 

 

 

 

 

Circular for Guests at Hotel Jaipur greens:

V. Imp.: Person lighting the lamp is great then Person cursing the darkness.
There will be many lapses and at that time instead of highlighting them , shield them or quitely improve them.We have no expirience or large team and have limited resources.U r our dear well wisher pl. cooperate.


Do's :
Pl. be ready in time to participate in all functions
Contact following persons only for any assistance:
Hotel housekeeping thru intercom
OR Mr Rajnish ( Hotel Help Desk) : 09828106634


Locker, Shoe shine machine,fruits and cookies are kept in all rooms.
strict jain food  and Biyaloo has been arranged.
Pool/ health club is complimentary.Use freely.
Tea/ cofee/ Milk/Water is available round the clock. There is also Tea/ cofee maker in each room.
Check out is stictly at 11 noon on 14th.Pl. check room thoroughly before leaving.Handover room keys to Hotel Help desk.
There r doctors in our guests.In case of health emergency contact them or Ms. Aditi Jain:
There is a separate arrangemnet for driver/ staff breakfast, lunch and dinner.Pl. do not bring them in our main dining halls.
Set wake up alarm in ur mobile. No one will contact u in rooms to wake u up.We r there for marriage and lets do the necessary.


Dont's:
Pl. dont place order for any item, directly.
Do not change any agenda, instruction directly unless u r the incharge of same work.
Taxi / car are strictly for pick up/ drop/ marriage work only. Pl. dont ask for same for personal visits/ work.
Contact Radio Cab for personal work/ visits.
 



Advisory 2: Take serious note of these tips during marriage preparartions


 

Advisory 2:

Pl. note that if u r leaving ur house locked then shud be secured / insured.

Travel only with artificial ornaments. If u r carrying costly things then take insurance.

Pl.note that no one shud know that u r travelling to attend a marriage party. Every thief knows that if some one is traveling to attend a marriage party means he/ she is carrying costly clothes, jewelery etc.
 
In train / bus no one shud know that u r traveling for a marriage. tell u r going for yatra.Avoid discussion about marriage which can be heard by unknown.

Carry crediit card, debit card, ATM card. Do not carry cash more then few hundred for journey. U do not need any money in hotel.

If u r proceeding on tour after marriage then withdraw money when u need.
Warn ur housekeeping service to not to enter room in ur absence. call for housekeeping in ur presence.

Most rooms in Hotel Jaipur Greens have safes/ tijori/ locker. Make full use of same.Dont keep precious items out of safe in a hurry.

Do not carry passport etc. But keep one photo id card which is required everywhere. Specially train passengers of e-tkt will be required to show photo id card.
 

Thanks and Regards,
Alok Tholiya (S.E.O.),
tholiya@yahoo.com
M: 9324225699/ 9819733057

 

 


Signs of Infidelity - 26 Clues to Cheating Spouses



Signs of Infidelity - 26 Clues to Cheating Spouses

A cheating spouse or significant other will tend to exhibit some of the signs of infidelity listed below. If you are suspicious of a loved one, go through our signs of infidelity checklist. Does your mate shows any signs of unavailability at work, increased time away from home or unusual cell phone usage, or other signs of infidelity? If more than a few of the indicators below are present, the next step is to conduct surveillance to confirm your suspicions. At GDL we deliver quality investigation backed-up by a 46 -year track record. By contacting us, you will be able to obtain piece of mind.

Domestic - At Home
Sudden increase in time away from home
Decreased sexual interest
Subject is often distracted and day dreaming
Subject is often unavailable at work
Subject attends more work functions alone
Cell phone calls are not returned in timely fashion
Subject leaves house or goes to other rooms to talk on the telephone
Subject uses computer alone and secretly
Subject asks about your schedule more often than usual
Mileage on car is high when only short distance errands are run
Clothes contain makeup or lipstick smudges

Records
Credit card bills contain unusual gifts, travel, restaurant and "unspecified" charges
Unexplained payments on bank statements
Subject has more cash on hand without accountability
Cell phone bills contain calls with long duration
Home phone and calling card records contain calls with long duration
Business phone records contain unusual calls
Subject has unexplained receipts or personal effects in wallet

Technical
Subject has suspicious phone voice-mail messages
Subject has suspicious cell phone numbers stored or dialed
Subject has suspicious text messages
Subject deletes text messages immediately
Internet web browser history list (this is a record of web sites visited) contains unusual sites
Frequent visits to Internet free e-mail accounts
Uncommon e-mail messages
Uncommon deleted e-mail messages

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Divorce In India

The Law

All major religions have their own laws which govern divorces within their own community, and separate regulations exist regarding divorce in interfaith marriages.
Hindus, including Buddhists, Sikhs and Jains, are governed by the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955; Christians by the Indian Divorce Act, 1869; Parsis by the Parsi Marriage and Divorce Act, 1936; and Muslims by the Dissolution of Muslim Marriages Act, 1939, which provides the grounds on which women can obtain a divorce, and the uncodified civil law. Civil marriages and inter-community marriages and divorces are governed by the Special Marriage Act, 1956 .Other community specific legislation includes the Native Converts' Marriage Dissolution Act, 1866 that allows a Hindu to appeal for a divorce if a spouse converts to Christianity.

Grounds for Divorce

In most Western nations, there are approximately 16 distinct reasons for which divorces are granted. In India, however, only five main reasons are generally accepted as sufficient grounds for divorce.

Adultery. While no formal definition of adultery exists, it does have "a fairly established meaning in matrimonial law", namely "the voluntary sexual intercourse of a married man or woman with a person other than the offender's wife or husband". While the law considers it valid grounds for either sex, adulterous women are "judged more harshly" than men.

The various religious regulations are not unanimous on this issue. The law regarding Hindus allows divorce to be granted on the grounds of infidelity of either husband or wife. The Christian law, however, would traditionally not have granted a divorce to a woman solely on the grounds of adultery. She would have had to prove another violation, such as cruelty .A recent Bombay High Court decision "recognised cruelty and desertion as independent grounds for the dissolution of a Christian marriage," striking down a section of the law that allowed for an unconstitutional distinction between the sexes.

Desertion. The three main components of desertion are the "disruption of cohabitation, absence of just or reasonable cause and their combination throughout three years" before the abandoned spouse may petition for a divorce. There also must be an obvious intent on the part of the offending spouse to remain permanently apart from the other. This statute also applies to cases in which a spouse has been heard from for at least seven years .

Cruelty. As with adultery, "the definition of the type of behavior that constitutes cruelty varies according to the gender of the petitioner" of the divorce. "Despite the fact that cruelty is often equally available to husbands and wives, the way in which the law is interpreted and applied suggests that women and men are evaluated by rather different standards" .This category includes both physical and mental abuse and neglect.

A court decision made in early May 1997 made cruelty sufficient grounds for a Christian woman to obtain a; previously, the law required both adultery and cruelty to be proven. The national Indian Christian community seems to have embraced this judgment.

Impotency. This refers to the physical inability of the couple to consummate the marriage or the refusal by one spouse to do so. Some cases have established that sterility can be construed to mean non-consummation if the other partner is not aware of the condition before the marriage.

Chronic Disease. Both mental and physical illnesses are included in this category, as well as sexually transmitted diseases. Not all religions recognize identical diseases as grounds for divorce. Christians and Parsis do not allow divorce for a sexually transmitted disease or leprosy while the other communities do.

Divorce under Muslim law

Muslims are governed by their personal laws under which "Nikah" (i.e. marriage) is a contract and may be permanent or temporary and permits a man 4 wives if he treats all of them equally. To have a valid "Nikah" under the Muslim Law, presence of a Qazi (Priest) is not necessary. Merely a proposal in the presence and hearing of two sane males or one sane male and two sane female adults, all Muslims and acceptance of the said proposals at the same time constitute a valid Nikah under the Muslim Personal Law. A husband can divorce his wife without any reasons merely by pronouncing thrice the word "Talak". However for a Muslim woman to obtain divorce certain conditions are necessary.

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Detectives Agencies In India

If you just go a decade back, a common man hardly knew about the detective agency. Mostly, influential people and corporate houses used to avail such services. At the same time, there were handful of detective agencies in India.

The scenario changed with globalisation and emergence of internet & news channels. Today, detective agency has reached even to a common man. Many people (especially security agencies) saw detective agency has a lucrative business and started operating detective agency with no prior experience and infrastructure. If you search the internet you would find dozens of detective agencies.

With the growing number of detective agencies, it becomes difficult for a first timer to choose a detective agency which can solve his problem and not just giving expensive false promises. In order to help you, we have formulated a guideline which would help to differentiate a professional detective agency from money munchers:

Guideline

  • Check the number of years the detective agency is in existence
  • Check the number of branches and employee strength
  • Check the profesionalism with which the entire operaton is conducted right from booking the case to reporting
    Agency with credibility in the market
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Preventing Credit Card Frauds

By taking certain precautions, a user can prevent their credit or debit card from being misused both online and offline.

  1. Do not provide photocopies of both the sides of  the credit card to anyone. The card verification value (CVV) which is required for online transactions is printed on the reverse of the card. Anyone can use the card for online purchases if the information is available with them.
  2. Do not click on links in email seeking details of  your account, they could be phishing emails from fraudsters. Most reputed companies will ask you to visit their website directly.
  3. While using a credit card for making payments online, check if the website is secure The CVV will also be required.
  4. Do not give any information to persons seeking credit card information over phone
  5. Notify your bank / credit card issuer if  you do not receive the monthly credit card statement on time. If a credit card is misplaced or lost, get it cancelled immediately

Courtesy : Cyber Crime Cell Mumbai

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Men better at sniffing out infidelity

LONDON: Men are better at detecting infidelity

than women but females appear to be much better at concealing it, a fascinating study has suggested.

The study, published in the journal Human Nature, found that men are better at unearthing infidelity than women but tend to suspect their female partners even when they are faithful.

When scientists interviewed 203 heterosexual couples about their infidelities, they found that women made correct inferences about their partner's infidelity about 80% of the time but men scored significantly higher 94%.

"Women are probably more reticent in disclosing information. They appear to be so much better at concealing their infidelity whereas men are better at detecting infidelity, based on this evidence," said Paul Andrews of Virginia Commonwealth University in Richmond.

Even as men were more likely to detect infidelity, males were more likely to have cheated on their wives or girlfriends, with 29% admitting to at least one affair compared to 18.5% of the women.

"We also developed a statistical method for estimating the amount of under-reporting of infidelity. We found that men tended to be honest about their affairs whereas women tended to under-report infidelities by about 10%," lead researcher Andrews was quoted as saying by the Independent. According to the report in the British daily, men honed by evolution to be wary of infidelity in their female partners are more motivated to seek out information to resolve suspicions.

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Seven ways to sniff out Infidelity!
Not sure if your partner is true to you? Well, then here are a few signs that may help sniff out whether he/she is lying or not.
Here are seven ways to identify a liar, reports FoxNews.

  1. Consider the person's recall: Liars never forget what they have to say but they may stumble when telling a tale by making contradicting statements. They're also eager to change the subject.
  2. Observe the person's overall body language: Liars can look ill at ease, fiddling with their hair, stroking their throat, or rubbing their eyes. With their body often turned away from you, you may notice hand or leg fidgeting. Liars also have trouble swallowing and may shake their heads after a point has been made. When the subject finally gets changed, they appear happier and more comfortable, maybe laughing nervously.
  3. Take notice of any defensiveness: Liars will often take offence to any indication that they're under suspicion. They're likely to throw any accusations you throw at them back at you. They will also talk too much, feeling the need to over-explain themselves.
  4. Home in on facial expressions: Liars fail to control their micro-expressions. While fibbing, you may notice nervous twitching. Their hand may be covering or touching their face. People also tend to touch the mouth when feeling guilty or anxious. They're particularly good with fake smiles.
  5. Don't overlook the Pinocchio reaction: When a human tells a lie, extra blood gets pumped through the body and the nose swells by a fraction of millimeter. Liars may subsequently touch the tip of their nose unconsciously.
  6. Concentrate on the eyes: A liar has a troubled brow and downcast or darting eyes. They have trouble directly engaging your gaze. They also give you eye-accessing clues. If the person is telling you the truth, he'll look up and to the left since that's the side of the brain we use for recalling information. If she's lying, she'll look up and to the right, which is the creative side of the brain, because she's mentally constructing something that hasn't happened.
  7. Note the person's voice: The higher the stakes are, the more the liar has a fear of getting caught. With this, the liar has a harder time controlling his body language or her voice. The pitch or rate of the speech may change, with the individual giving a lot of "umms" and "ahhs." Often, a liar will appear stilted and monotone. Answers may seem rehearsed.
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Should a woman confront her husband if she suspects he is cheating or wait until she has definitive evidence?

Rather than 'Confront' I'd recomend using the word converse. To confront him means that he is already guilty and the conversation will be one sided. He will get backed into a corner, with little room to escape. If the shoe was on the other foot, Is this how you would want him to deal with you? You don't win by putting people down, you win by being able to resolve an issue of the past. That's how you can move forward. You cannot change history, why would you want to constantly have to deal with it?

Would you charge a criminal without sufficient evidence to obtain a conviction and rely on their integrity to be forthcoming with the truth when challenged on the suspicion of having committed an offence?

Obtain the EVIDENCE you need to satisfy yourself of infidelity -- and save yourself listening to endless excuses, lies and denials

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Pre employment Screening, are we following it "rigorously"?

The biggest asset a company may have is the " Human Resource". While hiring these resources we have found a growing level of major discrepancies and embellishments on CVs. The candidates are getting innovative while covering up the break in their career. They follow these practices to make their CV look more attractive & remarkable but they don't realize the
Consequences of what would happen to their career once they are trapped during Pre – Employment Screening. At Times the erroneous information provided is harmless – for instance they might mention some recreational hobbies such as football or cricket to demonstrate their ability to be a "Team Player", but there can also be serious misrepresentation crossing legal or ethical boundaries. For instance - increase in compensation, stating higher designations, fake employment, creating of job responsibilities & false qualifications, etc.

The boom in the IT industry has led to the rise in employment hence people tend to fake information which includes educational qualification, so that they can get a good offer from a better Company. It has been found that the percentage of candidates misrepresenting facts on their CV's has increased rapidly. The Extent of such fake information ranges from 20 – 25% in most of the cases. As the candidates are becoming more deceitful in their CV's & job applications, companies should become more "rigorous" in checking the facts. Today there are many organizations specializing in Pre – Employment Screening of employees one of them is GDL INTERNATIONAL DETECTIVES

Pre-employment screening helps in verifying the accuracy of an applicant's claims as well as to discover any possible criminal history, workers compensation claims, or employer sanctions. Employment screening can be a practical and significantly reduces employee theft and dishonesty and notably increases productivity and safety. Certain industries require employment checks on all employees. Examples include the banking, financial, and security industries, transportation industries, childcare, healthcare, and teaching industries and law enforcement companies. The level of background investigation may vary from industry to industry or position to position. Employers who actively screen their applicants before hiring face less liability in the event of a workplace accident or crime. Pre-employment screening is a primary way of eliminating or minimizing negligent hiring liability.

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Employee Fraud
 An employee fraud is not a new concept or term for India. The annual survey by KPMG (a leading management consultant) has provided many interesting insights to the recent scenario concerning employee frauds. The sample of the survey covered more than 1000 public and private organisations in India. According to the survey, 47 percent of the frauds in the organisations have been done by either the employees or the senior executives with a decision making authority. .

Types of frauds:
The most common fraud reported by the organisations is the magnified or the inflated expense account by the employees. In these types of fraud, the expenses incurred by the employees are exaggerated and false invoices are submitted to the organisation for re-imbursement. Such frauds account for almost 50 per cent of the total losses incurred by the organisations because of employee frauds.    
           
Other types of frauds faced by the organisations are:

  • Keeping a secret share of commissions from suppliers for self   
  • Counterfeiting or faking the company cheques  
  • Purchase of goods for personal use on company expense         
  • Manipulating customer's accounts        
  • Using official information for personal benefits   
  • Forging financial statements      
  • Misappropriation of other company resources  
  • Corporate espionage   

Frauds related to manipulating and misusing the power to access the confidential information about the customers and the organisation and theft of data were also found to be more common than the rest.           
           
Dimensions of frauds:   
Any or every employee/ executive fraud, has the following magnitude or dimensions:     
           
The human dimension - There is always a human mind behind every executive fraud. It has been found to be of an internal employee or management in 90 per cent of the cases. Employees use their power and intelligence for corporate espionage.           
The technology dimension - Technology has emerged as a very important dimension to the employee frauds. New technologies have given way to unethical practices like hacking etc. On one hand, where the information technology can be effectively used to check frauds, it can and is giving opportunities and assistance to the people in planning and executing frauds. 
The legal dimension – The last dimension is the legal dimension that the legal framework and the institutional system regarding the frauds. It also includes organizational practices and policies regarding frauds.           
           
           
Detection of frauds      
According to the survey report of KPMG, a majority of the frauds were exposed by internal controls or check measures. Whistle-blowers or, many a times, anonymous notifications received also help to detect frauds. What follows the detection is the investigation by the management of the organisation , a review of the entire situation, followed by actions like firing the concerned employee, formal police investigation, and sometimes – letting the employee resign.  
           
The study by KPMG also sights the fact that most of the Indian organisations are unprepared to detect, handle or deal with fraud. Also, shocking was the fact that as much as 77 per cent of the respondents do not even conduct or has fraud diagnostic review systems in their organisations; nor do 84 per cent of the respondents have a written fraud policy. Assured of their security and internal control systems, 52 percent of the respondents (corporate heads) did not consider frauds as a threat or major problem.          
           
Scenario in Indian sectors        
The percentage of risk from corporate espionage of the information communication and entertainment sectors, and financial sector of India (including all the financial service providers) is as high as 84 and 81 per cent respectively. But the sector which is facing the frequent brunt of the problem is the emerging BPO sector in India. Cases of frauds in BPO sector, employees using the customer's confidential information, manipulation in accounts are getting common. The reasons being quoted for the increasing number of frauds are: 
           
Weakening of society's values, 
The growing economic pressures,         
More sophisticated technologies to assist criminals        
Urbane and intelligent criminals and      
Inadequate punishment for those who are caught          
           
Solutions
The first and the foremost solution to the problem are the reference checks and affirming the employee details of the employees before their confirmation in an organisation. To reduce the possibilities of frauds, it is advisable to design and incorporate the fraud diagnostic systems in the organisations creating internal detection systems. Also, regular periodic rotation of the staff can help reduce the possibilities of the employee frauds. As many organisation not being capable of detecting theft & fraud, it is higly advisable to assign the task to some professional detective agency who is able to understand the problem and capable of solving such kind of cases.        

 


Tuesday, September 14, 2010

BEFORE , DURING AND AFTER MARRIAGE IT IS IMP. TO KEEP RECORDS, PHOTOS,VIDEOS, BILLS and witnesses



Alok says:  No one tells you this till it is too late:
 
CLAIM FOR STRIDHAN

'Stridhan' is a traditional concept in Indian Hindu Society which has been derived from two Sanskrit words 'Stri' and 'dhan' which means 'Woman's property'. Usually, stridhan is passed from mother to daughter, unless the woman decides otherwise. Besides the ornaments and trousseau given at marriage, stridhan also includes all the gifts of money, property, jewellery and so on received by the woman before, during and after marriage from her family, her husband's family, friends and even strangers. It includes property inherited by the woman from her family or husband's family; property received by her under a compromise, adverse possession or in lieu of maintenance; property obtained in partition; and property bought using proceeds from stridhan. However, gifts to the husband by the woman or her relatives will not be part of her stridhan.

Protection of Stridhan

A woman's right to her stridhan is protected under law. Section 14 of the Hindu Succession Act, 1956 read with Section 27 of the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955 make a female Hindu an absolute owner of such property. In the case of Pratibha Rani v. Suraj Kumar, 1985 (2) SCC 370 the Supreme Court of India explained the concept of 'Stridhan' and its legal position under the Indian Laws. The Supreme Court of India held that "a Hindu married woman is the absolute owner of her stridhan property and can deal with it in any manner she likes and, even if it is placed in the custody of her husband or her in-laws they would be deemed to be trustees and bound to return the same if and when demanded by her".

It is, therefore, manifest that the position of stridhan of a Hindu married woman's property during coverture is absolutely clear and unambiguous; she is the absolute owner of such property and can deal with it in any manner she likes-she may spend the whole of it or give it away at her own pleasure by gift or will without any reference to her husband. Ordinarily, the husband has no right or interest in it with the sole exception that in times of extreme distress, as in famine, illness or the like, the husband can utilize it but he is morally bound to restore it or its value when he is able to do so. This right is purely personal to the husband and the property so received by him in marriage cannot be proceeded against even in execution of a decree for debt, such being the nature and character of stridhan of a woman.

If her husband or any other member of his family who are in possession of such property, dishonestly misappropriate or refuse to return the same, they may be liable to punishment for the offence of criminal breach of trust under sections 405 and 406 IPC.

Precautions: Women who wish to protect their stridhan rights must take precautionary steps.

  • Make a list of the gifts and/or properties received before, during and after marriage from your family, your husband's family, friends and other acquaintances.
  • Keep evidence for the gifts received by you such as wedding pictures. Also, ensure that the gifts and their bills are in your name and preserve these bills.
  • Have witnesses - statements of witnesses will be important evidence - for gifts of movables (including jewellery) at the time of marriage.

 

 

Anil Kumar Jain vs Maya Jain, 2009 case

Source: Pratibha Rani v. Suraj Kumar, 1985 (2) SCC 370

This decision of the Supreme Court of India has been followed by various High Courts of India in the subsequent years, namely, Raginiben Gunvantsinh Tank v. Gunvantlal Keshavlal Tank And Ors. [2003 (3) G.L.R. 2027], Reema Aggarwal v. Anupam [2004 Cri LJ 892] and many others




How To Find Detective For Matrimonial Investigation - By: Sanjay Singh

 

How To Find Detective For Matrimonial Investigation - By: Sanjay Singh

Marriage is a risky proposition. Many people tend to have lots of apprehensions before taking the plunge into this gamble. In the view of growing instances of infidelity and extra marital affairs, more and more people are now open to the idea of taking the services of a professional detective in order to undertake a matrimonial investigation primarily to get a reality check.

Pre-Marriage Investigation

In the view of increasing deceits and fraudulent practices, many people are resorting to conduct a private investigation on their "��would be"�� spouse in order to be sure of the credibility of the person they are about to get married to. Marriage is a decision of life time which can transform an individual"��s life for better or worse. This is the primary reason that many matrimonial agencies and online wedding sites are increasingly incorporating investigation services for their clients. Various checks like personal background, family history, and social standing are some of the important considerations that are extremely influential in arriving at a decision. Criminal records, if any, are also checked and verified in order to make people fully aware thereby enabling them to make an informed decision. If people are uncomfortable in seeking these services through matrimonial agencies, they can always approach professional private detectives in order to maintain the secrecy and confidentiality of such investigations.

Post-Marriage Investigation

Infidelity and extra marital affairs are serious issues that can jeopardize and ruin a marriage forever. Many couples often possess several insecurities because of which the fear of adultery is always there at the back of their minds. In order to find answers to their fears, many people have started taking the services of professional detectives in order to make their spouse go through a loyalty test. Infidelity is one of the primary reasons for many broken homes and traumatic marriage experiences. In order to bring the reality of a marriage to the surface, people are increasingly resorting to detective services in order to mitigate their fears or confirm them for that matter. Various private detectives and professional agencies are actively working to bring some relief to such people.

Where to Find Matrimonial Detectives

1) Various matrimonial agencies have started providing investigation services in order to make people aware about the person they are about to get married. This saves them lot of efforts in looking for professional investigation services.

2) Newspapers and magazines are some of the most common media through which many agencies tend to advertise themselves. People can personally approach such agencies to understand the nature of services and various investigative proceedings undertaken by them.

3) In the times of increasing internet exposure, many professional agencies have their online presence via an official website. Such websites usually contain various services provided to the prospective clients.

4) People can even take suggestions from their close friends and relatives who may know about such agencies or private detective services.

Matrimonial investigation is undertaken by large number of people in order to test the loyalty and commitment of their spouse towards the bond of marriage. One of the most effective ways of finding this is through the services of competent detectives who are adept in unfolding the hidden truths and deep embedded secrets.

 

Mr. Sanjay Singh, a professional detectives in Delhi offers corporate, financial and personnel investigation services in India




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