Infidelity tests now a common affair
Neha Bhayana | TOI-CREST EDITION
One morning last month,Dubai resident Raj Kanodia fished out a used bedsheet from the laundry basket while his wife was away.He then swiped his mouth with a cotton bud to collect saliva,sealed it in an envelope,and couriered it to a Hyderabad laboratory along with the used bed linen.
A week later,the 34-yearold got his answer.As I suspected,the stain on the bedsheet was indeed semen.And the DNA did not match mine, he says.Kanodia,who has been married for two years,was hurt but is still glad he ordered the test.If I hadnt,I would have been nagged by doubt, says the former Delhi resident,adding that he confronted his wife and they are still trying to work things out.
The test was life-altering for Kanodia,but at the laboratoryOne Touch Solutions and Services (OTS)it was a routine infidelity test.The lab gets at least two to three such requests a month,mostly from young,married men.
Though the infidelity test,which is popular abroad,is relatively new to India,demand for it has been increasing,says Ritu Sohaney,a DNA test consultant at OTS.
The lab gets used condoms,cigarette butts,underwear,waxing strips,tongue cleaners,earbuds,nails and blood-stained bedsheets for testing,she adds.
The Indian Biosciences Laboratory in Gurgaon also receives four to five enquiries every month from young people who want to know how they can nail their cheating spouses.The company charges Rs 27,920 to test one suspicious object.
Friday, July 29, 2011
Wednesday, July 27, 2011
Very very good article by Mellissaji ... relationship Bombay Times..28 July 2011
Learned a lot about practical outlook about keeping or dumping relationship, and what is not important in relationship. Read carefully point no.8 and get true meaning. Persons as described in point 8 are very clear. Such persons can not be cured even by top of the line doctors,psychiatrists,counselors,they dont believe,they dont believe in morality and if any lay person thinks he/ she can change such a person then not even god can save him or her....Alok
Love between the lines
10 false notions that romantic novels encourage
1 Every relationship ends with a happily ever after:
While a romance novel may end on a happy note,life is a different story with ups and downs that you have to deal with.
2 All romantic heroes are tall,dark and handsome:
This myth is slowly changing even in romance novels but it still exists at the back of our minds.All romantic heroines are beautiful,proportionate,curvy with a beautiful complexion.Romance is not only about the physical attributes.It's more about connecting with the person and sharing a comfort level.Keep in mind that no one is perfect.
3 Grand expensive gestures are the best way to express love:
Learn to pay attention to the little things.You dont always need expensive declarations of love to know that someone cares for you.
4 Condoms are barriers between you and your loved one:
Love making scenes in romance novels are not always a reflection of reality,and while the protagonist of a romance novel can afford to risk things,can you
5 Relationships are easy and things automatically fall into place:
You have to work on your relationship,no matter how perfect things may seem.
6 You will always find happiness with Mr Money Bags:
Financial security is not a guarantee of everlasting happiness.It can make things easy for you but is not the only basis for a good relationship.
7 Forcing you to do something you are not comfortable with in the bedroom is a hint of uncontrolled passion:
When an individual says no,we should respect that and no matter how passionate you feel you cant force yourself on someone.
8 Drug addicts,abusers,alcoholics,skirt chasers can all be reformed with love:
While people change its important to be realistic because relationships are hard.Taking on the responsibility of an addict or an alcoholic demands a lot from you as a person.So,ask yourself are you secure enough to deal with the situations that you may encounter.
9 Candlelight dinners,flowers,expensive gifts and trips are the only way to romance your loved one:
Love is not about extravagant gifts or candelight dinners.Its about caring for each other and being there always.
10 Follow your heart no matter what,even when things sound stupid and absurd:
Have a balance when it comes to making decisions.Listen to your heart and mind,so that you strike a balance between logic and emotions.
melissa.dcosta@timesgroup.com
10 false notions that romantic novels encourage
1 Every relationship ends with a happily ever after:
While a romance novel may end on a happy note,life is a different story with ups and downs that you have to deal with.
2 All romantic heroes are tall,dark and handsome:
This myth is slowly changing even in romance novels but it still exists at the back of our minds.All romantic heroines are beautiful,proportionate,curvy with a beautiful complexion.Romance is not only about the physical attributes.It's more about connecting with the person and sharing a comfort level.Keep in mind that no one is perfect.
3 Grand expensive gestures are the best way to express love:
Learn to pay attention to the little things.You dont always need expensive declarations of love to know that someone cares for you.
4 Condoms are barriers between you and your loved one:
Love making scenes in romance novels are not always a reflection of reality,and while the protagonist of a romance novel can afford to risk things,can you
5 Relationships are easy and things automatically fall into place:
You have to work on your relationship,no matter how perfect things may seem.
6 You will always find happiness with Mr Money Bags:
Financial security is not a guarantee of everlasting happiness.It can make things easy for you but is not the only basis for a good relationship.
7 Forcing you to do something you are not comfortable with in the bedroom is a hint of uncontrolled passion:
When an individual says no,we should respect that and no matter how passionate you feel you cant force yourself on someone.
8 Drug addicts,abusers,alcoholics,skirt chasers can all be reformed with love:
While people change its important to be realistic because relationships are hard.Taking on the responsibility of an addict or an alcoholic demands a lot from you as a person.So,ask yourself are you secure enough to deal with the situations that you may encounter.
9 Candlelight dinners,flowers,expensive gifts and trips are the only way to romance your loved one:
Love is not about extravagant gifts or candelight dinners.Its about caring for each other and being there always.
10 Follow your heart no matter what,even when things sound stupid and absurd:
Have a balance when it comes to making decisions.Listen to your heart and mind,so that you strike a balance between logic and emotions.
melissa.dcosta@timesgroup.com
Friday, July 22, 2011
Misconception or suppressed facts?????
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There is per se nothing wrong with topic, issues raised, language used. Rather name/word like penis is simply not used in its true spelling is a cheap mentality. We r not here a cheap, criminal , sick psyche people to get some wrong message from a simple word describing our body organ.
However the facts narrated r not right and are presented in confused way.
There r broadly two types of erctile dysfunctions A. Psychogenic B. Organic/ Physiological
A competent health and s*x expert can identify the reason and try to cure psychological reason thru psychiatirst and if treated erection can be restored.
In case of physiological disorder:
1. Penis r of differt sizes. But penis of the size smaller then abt 5 cm when erect r not satisfying to partner and not considered as good enough for s*x.
2. Penis if can not last erect for more then reasonable strokes and seconds always then is not fit for intercourse. However at some time or other all men have sustaining desired enough but if that is a permanent case then not fit case for partnering.
3. If any male is never able to penetrate then also he is considered unfit.
4. Hormonal defeciency but which is easily treateable.
However like any other defeciency most s*xual defecienies are treatable and with scientific eduactions many get get cured. Viagra has helped millions of suffering male. If wife agrees then many suffering men can under go surgery for artificial erection and same can give good results.
But but if there is total failure to have satisfying physical relationship then
a) If person and his family was aware of such untreatable defeciency then they should be punished.
b) If they come to know after marriage and r not able to cure the defeciency then man should gracefully give option to wife to seek divorce by consent.
c) If male denies right of wife to enjoy and vice a versa is true then too they r left with no choice but to seek divorce where a detailed report from competent doctor is asked and then only judgement is given. I dont think any one can get divorce easily on this ground by making false allegation. And then higher court and medical report from super specialists are available.
Hope this will satisfy the conflicts in mind and which erupt because we dont have s*x eduaction in India not even for MBBS / other higher medical courses.
Alok Tholiya
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PASS THE BISCUITS ...and burnt ones will do...Alok
PASS THE BISCUITS ......!!
When I was a kid, my mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner every now and then. And I remember one night in particular when she had made breakfast after a long, hard day at work. On that evening so long ago, my mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage, and extremely burned biscuits in front of my dad. I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed! Yet all my dad did was reach for his biscuit, smile at my mom and ask me how my day was at school.
I don't remember what I told him that night, but I do remember hearing my mom apologize to my dad for burning the biscuits. And I'll never forget what he said: "Honey, I love burned biscuits."
Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him if he really liked his biscuits burned. He wrapped me in his arms and said, "Your momma put in a long hard day at work today and she's real tired. And besides... a burnt biscuit never hurt anyone!"
You know, life is full of imperfect things... and imperfect people.. I'm not the best at hardly anything, and I forget birthdays and anniversaries just like everyone else. What I've learned over the years is that learning to accept each others faults and choosing to celebrate each others differences, is one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting relationship.
So...please pass me a biscuit. And yes, the burned one will do just fine!
Life is too short to wake up with regrets... Love the people who treat you right and forgive the ones who don't.
ENJOY LIFE NOW - IT HAS AN EXPIRY DATE!
When I was a kid, my mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner every now and then. And I remember one night in particular when she had made breakfast after a long, hard day at work. On that evening so long ago, my mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage, and extremely burned biscuits in front of my dad. I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed! Yet all my dad did was reach for his biscuit, smile at my mom and ask me how my day was at school.
I don't remember what I told him that night, but I do remember hearing my mom apologize to my dad for burning the biscuits. And I'll never forget what he said: "Honey, I love burned biscuits."
Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him if he really liked his biscuits burned. He wrapped me in his arms and said, "Your momma put in a long hard day at work today and she's real tired. And besides... a burnt biscuit never hurt anyone!"
You know, life is full of imperfect things... and imperfect people.. I'm not the best at hardly anything, and I forget birthdays and anniversaries just like everyone else. What I've learned over the years is that learning to accept each others faults and choosing to celebrate each others differences, is one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting relationship.
So...please pass me a biscuit. And yes, the burned one will do just fine!
Life is too short to wake up with regrets... Love the people who treat you right and forgive the ones who don't.
ENJOY LIFE NOW - IT HAS AN EXPIRY DATE!
Saturday, July 16, 2011
Some tips for the D-day
The nuptial day is very important and you have to keep in mind several things so that your special day becomes a memorable one and everybody remembers it for years to come. Budget allocation, beauty treatments, getting the list of guests ready and many other works has to be completed before you actually tie the knot. If it is an arranged marriage try to get to know your fianc� and in-laws so that your relationship after marriage gets stronger and better. Patience, respect, and compromise are the key to the success of any relationship and so is the case for marriages. So prepare yourself in a way so that you are patient when discussing matters with your in-laws and fianc�. Getting jittery before marriage and becoming nervous are common issues which every girl faces so try to do some mediation which will help you to be calm for your final day.
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