The truth of life the way I found and the way I learnt and the way I see::
6. Most people cant see Mr Hyde: There r some who r really innocent, there r others who are biased, there r weak who can not accept the fact that their own blood / hero/ leader/saint/ teacher is like that. So one should not mind if people behave like that . Supposing some one says your mother / father is like that when you have never seen them that way then will you easily believe??? No.. Would you have time to go in detail?? No.. Would u have courage to admit / accept / go in detail and find the truth??? No. Same way pl. accept the fact that relatives and friends of a Mr Hyde will never accept you version and will only side him.
7. And it is not easy to know the darker side of a person. In last 3 years so many big religious heads , sadhus have been found in illicit relations, involved in scandals etc.. Lacs of their followers were with them most of the time. How then can they believe there exists the darker side of their hero.While same masses will easily accept the false stories against a filmi, a politician and police as they have been painted so in our mind. But my son/ my mother/ my guru/ my community/ my religion / my my my are so painted in our mind that we can not just accept any truth against them. So person expecting that their ilks will accept the Mr Hyde side of their own person is like seeing moon in june noon.
8. But ofcorse if there are any chances of Mr Hyde being hanged/ committing suicide / being jailed/ going under sever punishment / putting to shame the close-ones / inviting retaliation / going in hiding/ having disrupted family ( cursed) life etc exists then it is because of the lack of sincere scientific efforts from the near and dear ones of such person. They think by ignoring, not believing/ delaying/ or puchakarmna or dantana are sufficient. No it is not. One should note if there is a dhuana ( smoke ) then there is some gadbad( risk) and it can catch fire and engulf many others . But most sit in disgust/ disbelief and wake up when it is too late. Rather even after a very dangerous happening they keep playing blame game instead of admitting that we had time to repair our break failed car (person) going wrong unstoppably and finnaly crashes.
9. Worst situation is where a family member wants to repair a car ( defective person/ Mr Hyde) when he is not trained to do so. Only a good Psychologist/ psychiatrist/ counselor/ spiritual leader can do so. Specially the present generation thinks too much of themselves and does not listen to parents/ spouse / elders . They are successful in their career so they think they are right and master of everything. But nay! They r not .
Had Duryodhan listened to even one elder / wise man then fall of all Kaurav cud be avoided. If Ravan had listened to hanuman/ Vibhishan etc then Ramayan would have been written in different way. But vinash kale viprit buddhi. And in such situation if one expects any beneficial assistance from any quarter then it will be major disillusion.
So do what::
1. Learn to uplift own mood, own understanding, expect less from life, keep fit and remember after every fall / summer there is a green spring days too. Woh di nahi rahe. Yeh din bhi jyada nahi rahenge ( unless u stick to them) . Yeh din bhi hava honge. Nai subah naya di lekara ayegi.
2. Forget to change others.No one can change easily unless he/she wants to. Prepare yourself to face the world/ trauma/ attack/ ups and down.Keep your self busy in domestic chorus, profession,hobbies etc etc.
As per Jain dhrma after lacs of Janam / life U have got this human life. Live it the way that people take lesson from you. This life is not for wasting. Not for getting obsessed to/ affected with one issue. Go on and you will get a caravan of your choice. But one needs patience. Kahe hot adhir. Read this book. I am left with only one copy of same.
Alok Tholiya
1. It is up to me to be honest and it is up to other person to be honest. Because I am honest does not mean other person will reciprocate.
2. My duty is towards myself and myself alone ( in right and spiritual way and not in mean and criminal way).
3. If I spoil my wealth, health, peace, spirit then no one will be bothered to care for me. No one has time, inclination,interest , ways, means to do so. So I must build my wealth, health, spiritual well being and nature.
4. People don't have time, resource,interest to know another person. So a person nicely behaving, spending money, throwing party will be considered good by all even if he is sinful to others at other times. Most criminals are worshiped ( telgi , dawood, Sanjay datt, Bhai Thakur, to most of mafia and criminals are very popular in their own folks, village, neighborhood as they keep distributing alms / favour to them.No one is concerned towards how they treat others, break laws etc ..Most Jails are surrounded by the fans of these criminals when they are to be released and are garlanded and worshiped. As they are indispensable to thier own folks. No one has a courage to say we have nothing to do with you if you take law in hand, if u don't change, if u don't mend your ways.
5. There is in some way and some proportion two personalities in everyone of us. But only thing is if Mr Hyde personality becomes over powering and when alone and at that time can not control the Hyde personality and takes law in hand then the big law and order situation takes place. Read Strange Case of Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Strange_Case_of_Dr_Jekyll_and_Mr_Hyde but even in this case the Dr jekyll wants to prevent Hyde from taking over himself. But most others just continue the spat of illegal acts as they never feel they have done anything wrong, there is no remorse, no gulit, they have number of excuses and justification to support their misdeeds and are stronly convinced that the path howsoever illegal was correct and shall be repeated if required.
6. Most people cant see Mr Hyde: There r some who r really innocent, there r others who are biased, there r weak who can not accept the fact that their own blood / hero/ leader/saint/ teacher is like that. So one should not mind if people behave like that . Supposing some one says your mother / father is like that when you have never seen them that way then will you easily believe??? No.. Would you have time to go in detail?? No.. Would u have courage to admit / accept / go in detail and find the truth??? No. Same way pl. accept the fact that relatives and friends of a Mr Hyde will never accept you version and will only side him.
7. And it is not easy to know the darker side of a person. In last 3 years so many big religious heads , sadhus have been found in illicit relations, involved in scandals etc.. Lacs of their followers were with them most of the time. How then can they believe there exists the darker side of their hero.While same masses will easily accept the false stories against a filmi, a politician and police as they have been painted so in our mind. But my son/ my mother/ my guru/ my community/ my religion / my my my are so painted in our mind that we can not just accept any truth against them. So person expecting that their ilks will accept the Mr Hyde side of their own person is like seeing moon in june noon.
8. But ofcorse if there are any chances of Mr Hyde being hanged/ committing suicide / being jailed/ going under sever punishment / putting to shame the close-ones / inviting retaliation / going in hiding/ having disrupted family ( cursed) life etc exists then it is because of the lack of sincere scientific efforts from the near and dear ones of such person. They think by ignoring, not believing/ delaying/ or puchakarmna or dantana are sufficient. No it is not. One should note if there is a dhuana ( smoke ) then there is some gadbad( risk) and it can catch fire and engulf many others . But most sit in disgust/ disbelief and wake up when it is too late. Rather even after a very dangerous happening they keep playing blame game instead of admitting that we had time to repair our break failed car (person) going wrong unstoppably and finnaly crashes.
9. Worst situation is where a family member wants to repair a car ( defective person/ Mr Hyde) when he is not trained to do so. Only a good Psychologist/ psychiatrist/ counselor/ spiritual leader can do so. Specially the present generation thinks too much of themselves and does not listen to parents/ spouse / elders . They are successful in their career so they think they are right and master of everything. But nay! They r not .
Had Duryodhan listened to even one elder / wise man then fall of all Kaurav cud be avoided. If Ravan had listened to hanuman/ Vibhishan etc then Ramayan would have been written in different way. But vinash kale viprit buddhi. And in such situation if one expects any beneficial assistance from any quarter then it will be major disillusion.
So do what::
1. Learn to uplift own mood, own understanding, expect less from life, keep fit and remember after every fall / summer there is a green spring days too. Woh di nahi rahe. Yeh din bhi jyada nahi rahenge ( unless u stick to them) . Yeh din bhi hava honge. Nai subah naya di lekara ayegi.
2. Forget to change others.No one can change easily unless he/she wants to. Prepare yourself to face the world/ trauma/ attack/ ups and down.Keep your self busy in domestic chorus, profession,hobbies etc etc.
As per Jain dhrma after lacs of Janam / life U have got this human life. Live it the way that people take lesson from you. This life is not for wasting. Not for getting obsessed to/ affected with one issue. Go on and you will get a caravan of your choice. But one needs patience. Kahe hot adhir. Read this book. I am left with only one copy of same.
Alok Tholiya
