Orgasms Can Make You Smarter: ...do not deny same to you and your spouse

No one tells yoy this except Alok : However either one of the partner being in anger, in mood to take revenge,in pain, or to hide his/ her true sexuality ( normally when having extramarital relations on purpose does not particiapte activly/ joyfully. This results in stiffness/ dryness further resulting in non orgasm. Non orgasm/ absence of joyful participation can affect other partner too. Thus denying other partner of pleasure / Orgasm as he feels offended/ insulted/ deprived/ he feels he /she can not be over active when other partner is not and finally he too becomes dull resulting in inproper arousal/ weakening erection and finally unorgasmic. And end result is he / she is less smart/ less active / less ambitious in life and thus less successful. ....Others who are smart and successful are thosewho are disconnected with spouse and have personal grave ambition to chase power, post, religion, research etc and they too are successful. Rest live and die like depressed, uncompititive suffering souls.

Orgasms Can Make You Smarter: Here’s How to Have More of Them

By Laura Berman, PhD
Published Aug 9, 2013

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Orgasms can do a body (and a brain) good.
A new study from Rutgers has found that orgasm can actually increase brain activity. The researchers used an fMRI machine to measure blood flow to different parts of the brain, and then they had the study participants engage in a variety of activities from crossword puzzles to self-stimulation. They found that while certain mental exercises (such as crossword puzzles or Sudoku puzzles) can increase activity in parts of the brain, only orgasm could increase activity across the entire brain. In other words, self-stimulation and orgasm actually had more positive mental benefits than “cerebral” activities like puzzle-solving!
The Rutgers study is just one of many that have studied the potential benefits of sexual satisfaction. Other studies have found that orgasms are beneficial because they help to improve circulation, burn calories, promote better sleep, alleviate pain, improve mood, and decrease stress. Hence, not only does sex feel good, it’s actually good for you…both physically and mentally as this new research shows.
So how can you enjoy more orgasms and increase your sexual pleasure? Consider the following:
· Get to know your hotspots. If you don’t know your body and what makes you feel good, how can you expect your partner to know? Identify your hotspots such as your clitoris and your G-spot and don’t be afraid to try positions that give you the stimulation you need during foreplay and intercourse. Moan and coo to let your partner know when he is on the right track, or speak up and tell him what feels good—in a complimentary way, of course. For example, say something like, “I love it when you touch me like that” or “It makes me so hot when you kiss me deeply.” Let him know what turns you on…because that in turn will turn him on as well!
· Self-stimulate more often. As the Rutgers study shows, orgasms are beneficial even when they come from self-stimulation. By staying in touch with your body and masturbating regularly you can help to improve your circulation and your sexual response, and it can also help to keep you in touch with your sexual desires and your fantasies.
· Let go of the idea that sex can only happen when the house is clean, your legs are shaved, the kids are asleep and the laundry is put away. If you want more orgasms in your life, you have to stop postponing sexual pleasure until life is more relaxed…because that day probably won’t ever come. Life is messy, unpredictable, and fast-paced, but that’s okay—because sex can be too!
· Remember, an orgasm is an orgasm is an orgasm! People often think that there is a “right” way for orgasms to happen (such as during intercourse) and they feel bad if they can’t orgasm simultaneously with their partner or with minimal effort. However, I always say that an orgasm is an orgasm is an orgasm. In other words, it doesn’t matter how or when you reach orgasm, whether it’s before sex or after sex, or whether it’s from self-stimulation, oral sex, or intercourse. There is no “right” way to enjoy sexual pleasure, it’s simply however works best for you and your partner. So take the pressure off and don’t put too many expectations or “should’s” around your sexual pleasure. Just let orgasms happen when they happen and enjoy the journey itself and not just the destination.

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