It is tragedy that we go to specialist for even smallest of smallest
issues even if it is a harmless pimple. But when it comes to
relationships we become our own specialist, or listen those who are
leaning on our side, are biased, inexperienced to handle their own
issues.
In damaged marriage relationship there r many issues:
Also take written opinion and reasons for such opinion in writing. Dr Nathawat without hearing fully, without knowing full facts, without making detailed investigations just advised for divorce thru a crooked lawyer sitting in a false women organisation in Chembur. Dr Nathawat gave verdict in a one sitting even after charging heavily. So one must be cautious in dealing and relying on consultants and go for more opinions as these are life time issues and steps can not be on abrupt advises.
Normal surgeon is dealing with one person but a relationship counselor has to work on two families , so his responsible attitude, human nature ( as if dealing with his own daughter) , holistic approach, patience, persistence etc is required.Do not relay on a quack who sends you to operations theater in no time without thorough investigations,assistance of able team , and lot of time.
Same is for clients. Have faith, have patience, keep open mind, be ready of many sessions, be ready for several psychological tests, and even whole family may have to go for counseling to save a marriage.
In damaged marriage relationship there r many issues:
- It affects our and families reputation ( but if same is declared irreparable like cancer of third stage by a renowned specialist then you have to go for surgery/ break the relations)
- It affects both psychologically
- It affects their career
- It affects psychologically their children
- When sick, old or in distress then except spouse no one has time for you.
- Financial it can cost heavily
- going out alone in parties and function is a big challenge
- Many rituals one can't perform alone or it looks awkward
Also take written opinion and reasons for such opinion in writing. Dr Nathawat without hearing fully, without knowing full facts, without making detailed investigations just advised for divorce thru a crooked lawyer sitting in a false women organisation in Chembur. Dr Nathawat gave verdict in a one sitting even after charging heavily. So one must be cautious in dealing and relying on consultants and go for more opinions as these are life time issues and steps can not be on abrupt advises.
Normal surgeon is dealing with one person but a relationship counselor has to work on two families , so his responsible attitude, human nature ( as if dealing with his own daughter) , holistic approach, patience, persistence etc is required.Do not relay on a quack who sends you to operations theater in no time without thorough investigations,assistance of able team , and lot of time.
Same is for clients. Have faith, have patience, keep open mind, be ready of many sessions, be ready for several psychological tests, and even whole family may have to go for counseling to save a marriage.
Thanks and Regards,
Alok Tholiya,
• Pl. fwd./ circulate this mail if you think the issues raised here needs wider audience.
• Let us make our city beautiful, disciplined and Loveable.
Let us handover to our future generation a better place to live in.
• www.digambarjains.com : The matrimonial web site for Digambar Jains
Alok Tholiya,
Marigold Hall,Tholiya Bhavan,
10Th Rd., Santacruz East,
Mumbai 400055
9324225699
• Pl. fwd./ circulate this mail if you think the issues raised here needs wider audience.
• Let us make our city beautiful, disciplined and Loveable.
Let us handover to our future generation a better place to live in.
• www.digambarjains.com : The matrimonial web site for Digambar Jains
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