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Forum Home > Family Law > Marriage > Multiple accusations by wife and inlaws Raghuram D Engineer [ Scorecard : 28] Hello, I got married on 21st November 2011. Since the wedding my wife did not talk to me or my parents freely, I mean she did not appear happy about the marriage. We thought she needs time to adjust. Whenever I tried to touch her or get close to her, she showed extreme un-comfort. Our first night was scheduled on 19th December 2011 as I had to go back to my work place in Hyderabad 1 week after the marriage. On the first night she cried when I tried to go near her and she asked for 2 months time to adjust to the marriage. She said she was not prepared for the marriage and she also did not have any other option to avoid the marriage as she finished her studies and she does not want to work. I said OK. I took her to Hyderabad on 20th December 2011 and she continued to stay away from me physically. Whenever I tried to speak to her or go near hear she avoided me by crying and beating her self. On January 6th 2012 I called her dad and told him that she does not appear happy with marriage and she is not willing to have any physical relationship. He promised to visit me and talk it out but her parents never visited my place to sort out the problem. On Jan 15th 2012, I was at my parents place along with my wife and asked my in-laws to visit me for a discussion and I told them the problem again. No action was taken by her parents; they just promised me that they will sort out things. On Jan 30th 2012 I was in Hyderabad with my wife and her parents along with few people visited my place and accused me of physically and mentally harassing her. He also accused me of being an impotent and has physiological issues and took my wife along with them. He being a lawyer has now accused me/my family of following. I am impotent, and has physically harassed her. My parents harassed her for dowry. My sisters have mentally tortured her. Now my inlaws is asking for 10Lakh rupees to settle this matter within family including seperation or he will go to court. What should we do? What charges will be put on me/my family. How I can we fight back the allegations. Please let me know if I need to provide any more information. I will be extremly thankful for any suggestions. ========================================================================================================================================================================================================================================== Reply by Alok Tholiya self employed I trust ur story and based on that : Hayderabad has a world famous Urologist and andrologist. Go and obtain certificate that u r not impotent. Even if one has impotency same can be temporary or most of it are solveable but due to shyness not many take benefit of modern science and keep suffering. It is better torealise impending dangerous and with women too having same rights pl. note that they will exercise same ( rightly or wrongly). You should hv sent a email / letter giving an account of behaviour in writing which wud hv helped you. Better late then never write to them polite letter of incidents, attach s*xual fitness certificate and requaest that both be sent for counseling and find good marriage counselor. If they still fight with u and u r ready with fitness certificate and all other evidence then file a demation case of Rs 1 cr on them that they have spoilt ur imgae before their relatives who had come with them, your family and samaj.