Why some women pay the price in bed

Why some women pay the price in bed

Tanya Datta, TNN | Sep 30, 2011, 05.18PM IST

So you are a wife who likes to wear the trousers at home? Attention women, this might spell doom for you in your bedroom.

According to a recent report, Women who like to take all the household decisions can find themselves waiting 100 times longer for passion than those who do things jointly with theirpartner. Things like deciding the weekly budget, matters relating to children etc, there should be an equal participation from both the members.

The report noted the level of decision-making and then compared it with the women's own accounts of their sexual relationships. And it found there was a clear link between those homemakers who take charge and the amount of sex they had.

For pyschologist Seema Hingoranny who completely agrees with the report, says that there has been an increasing number of men coming for advice on the same issue, "There have been a lot of married men who have come up to me with this complain that their wives are too bossy and this surely makes their sexual intimacy suffer. If there is a dominating trait in a preson's personality, it will extend in other spheres of the person's life and space."

But another side of the report says than men being turned off by their dominating partners in bed, it can be that women take control of things in bed as well and prefer doing their own thing.

Shweta Singh, a marriage counsellor states, "Men have never been able to take women doing better than them in any sphere of life. They like being in control and if that doesn't happen the relationship suffers. There tends to be a clash of ideologies which in the longer run is not beneficial for both of them. The couple needs to strike a healthy balance." Agrees Hingoranny and cites, "Women should understand that they should change their position and stance sometimes. They do not seem to realise that they are the dominating one in the relationship till the time they come to us and we subtly pronounce to them about where they are going wrong."