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10 Surprising Health Benefits of Sex

By Kathleen Doheny
WebMD Feature

The perks of sex extend well beyond the bedroom.

Being "in the mood" just might help your health.

How does a juicy sex life do a body good? Let's count the ways

1. Less Stress, Better Blood Pressure

Having sex could lower your stress and your blood pressure.

That finding comes from a Scottish study of 24 women and 22 men who kept records of their sexual activity. The researchers put them in stressful situations -- such as speaking in public and doing math out loud -- and checked their blood pressure.

People who had had intercourse responded better to stress than those who engaged in other sexual behaviors or abstained.

Another study found that diastolic blood pressure (the bottom number of your blood pressure) tends to be lower in people who live together and have sex often.

2. Sex Boosts Immunity

Having sex once or twice a week has been linked with higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A, or IgA, which can protect you from getting colds and other infections. 

A Wilkes University study had 112 college students keep records of how often they had sex and also provide saliva samples for the study. Those who had sex once or twice a week had higher levels of IgA, an antibody that could help you avoid a cold or other infection, than other students.

3. Sex Burns Calories

Thirty minutes of sex burns 85 calories or more. It may not sound like much, but it adds up: 42 half-hour sessions will burn 3,570 calories, more than enough to lose a pound. Doubling up, you could drop that pound in 21 hour-long sessions.

"Sex is a great mode of exercise," Los Angeles sexologist Patti Britton, says. It takes both physical and psychological work, though, to do it well, she says.

4. Sex Improves Heart Health

A 20-year-long British study shows that men who had sex two or more times a week were half as likely to have a fatal heart attack than men who had sex less than once a month.

And although some older folks may worry that sex could cause a stroke, the study found no link between how often men had sex and how likely they were to have a stroke. 

5. Better Self-Esteem

University of Texas researchers found that boosting self-esteem was one of 237 reasons people have sex.

That finding makes sense to sex, marriage, and family therapist Gina Ogden. She also says that those who already have self-esteem say they sometimes have sex to feel even better.

"One of the reasons people say they have sex is to feel good about themselves," she says. "Great sex begins with self-esteem. If the sex is loving, connected, and what you want, it raises it."

Of course, you don't have to have lots of sex to feel good about yourself. Your self-esteem is all about you -- not someone else. But if you're already feeling good about yourself, a great sex life may help you feel even better.

6. Deeper Intimacy

Having sex and orgasms boosts levels of the hormone oxytocin, the so-called love hormone, which helps people bond and build trust.

In a study of 59 women, researchers checked their oxytocin levels before and after the women hugged their partners. The women had higher oxytocin levels if they had more of that physical contact with their partner.

Higher oxytocin levels have also been linked with a feeling of generosity. So snuggle up -- it might help you feel more generous toward your partner.

7. Sex May Turn Down Pain

Oxytocin also boosts your body's painkillers, called endorphins. Headache, arthritis pain, or PMS symptoms may improve after sex.

In one study, 48 people inhaled oxytocin vapor and then had their fingers pricked. The oxytocin cut their pain threshold by more than half.

8. More Ejaculations May Make Prostate Cancer Less Likely

Research shows that frequent ejaculations, especially in 20-something men, may lower the risk of getting prostate cancer later in life.

A study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association found that men who had 21 or more ejaculations a month were less likely to get prostate cancer than those who had four to seven ejaculations per month.

The study doesn't prove that ejaculations were the only factor that mattered. Many things affect a person's odds of developing cancer. But when the researchers took that into consideration, the findings still held.

9. Stronger Pelvic Floor Muscles

For women, doing pelvic floor muscle exercises called Kegels may mean more pleasure -- and, as a perk, less chance of incontinence later in life.

To do a basic Kegel exercise, tighten the muscles of your pelvic floor as if you're trying to stop the flow of urine. Count to three, then release.

10. Better Sleep

The oxytocin released during orgasm also promotes sleep, research shows.

Getting enough sleep has also been linked with a host of other health benefits, such as a healthy weight and better blood pressure. That's something to think about, especially if you've been wondering why your guy can be active one minute and snoring the next.m

Testosterone the Man Maker?

Paul Spector, M.D.

Founder, Pantheon Medicine; Certified health and fitness specialist

Testosterone the Man Maker?

Men aren't what they used to be.

Once upon a time, only women experienced menopause and became candidates for hormone replacement therapy.

We now have andropause, or male menopause. Male hormones are known as androgens, a word derived from Greek meaning man-maker. And yes, men are lining up for hormone replacement.

Has the American male developed hormone replacement envy?

Prescription sales of testosterone have skyrocketed. As recently as 1988, testosterone sales in the U.S. were well under 18 million dollars. By 2011 that number had jumped to 1.6 billion dollars. Between 1993 and 2002 testosterone prescriptions grew by 25-30 percent per year.

The only approved indication for the use of prescription testosterone is a relatively uncommon condition called hypogonadism. This clinical syndrome is defined by an inability to make normal amounts of testosterone and sperm due to diseases of the testes, pituitary or hypothalamus. Testosterone treatment has proven enormously beneficial and safe for this disorder. The same benefits and safety in otherwise healthy aging men remains unproven.

The prevalence of hypogonadism has not changed.

This means that a large population of American men with (and without) age-related decreases in testosterone is receiving testosterone therapy, an unapproved intervention.

Now let's get a couple of things straight:

Hypogonadism is completely different than an age-related decrease in testosterone production. And there is no male equivalent of menopause.

Testosterone levels peak in men's 20s and 30s and then gradually decline with age. Unlike menopause, there is no sudden drop in male hormone levels. In addition, the rate and extent to which testosterone levels decrease with age is quite variable.

Has the pharmaceutical industry created a false condition and cashed in on it?

No and yes.

No, the decrease in testosterone levels is real. And yes, they are cashing in on it.

Clinical studies indicate that testosterone levels were 20 percent higher in 1987 than in 2007, regardless of age. The average sperm count has also decreased significantly over the last century.

Why?

Are men just less hormonally manly than they used to be?

Well, on average, yes.

But I don't think the answer, for most us, is a good rubdown with testosterone jelly.

Let's look at what we see when we see low testosterone.

The odds of having low testosterone are 2.4 times higher in the obese, 2.1 times higher in those with diabetes, and 1.8 times higher in people with high blood pressure.

As we you know, these disorders have grown to epidemic proportions over the past several decades. Has a mysterious dip in testosterone levels caused the dramatic acceleration of these conditions?

I don't think so.

We have known for some time that men with excess body fat not only have low testosterone levels but also harbor abnormally high estrogen levels, a major female hormone. Fat cells convert testosterone to estrogen. In this sense, fat is literally emasculating.

Seventy percentof adults in the U.S. are overweight or obese. Nearly 80 percent of adult Americans do not get the minimal amount of exercise recommended. The gradual path to these numbers over recent decades helps explain the downward trend in testosterone levels over the same period.

So what can men do -- short of taking testosterone?

The following steps have proven effective in raising testosterone levels.

• Lose weight
• Be active and strength train
• Get at least 7-8 hours of sleep
• Manage your stress
• Make sure your zinc and vitamin-D levels are not low

I know. "Easy for you to say, Doc."

Start slow. Do something to achieve these things everyday, no matter how small. Give yourself plenty of time. Remember that you're doing a lot more than increasing your testosterone level in taking these steps. These things decrease your risk for diabetes, cardiovascular disease, high blood pressure and obesity.

Man up your lifestyle before you reach for the "man-in-a-can" solution.

For more by Paul Spector, M.D., click here. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/paul-spector-md/adropause_b_3504279.html

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"Men should take steps to correct their lack of testosterone production by stimulating the natural production of testosterone until they completely exhaust their options."

This means avoiding more drastic interventions such as testosterone replacement therapy, which can inhibit natural testosterone production in the long run and even lead to sterility, and instead focusing on supplementation and lifestyle changes. Since plastics, consumer product chemicals, processed foods, receipt paper, and many other common exposures in modern life tend to be estrogenic, the first thing men with Low T should do to correct the problem is to avoid these exposures.

"Exposure to xenoestrogens starts in the womb and continues throughout life via a myriad of everyday sources including plastic containers, cosmetics and toiletries and agricultural chemicals (insecticides, herbicides and fungicides which contribute significantly to xenoestrogen exposure)," adds Mr. LaValle in a related article on estrogen.

Supplement your diet, avoid plastics, and detoxify for improved testosterone production

Mr. Valle also recommends supplementing with high-quality zinc, magnesium, DIM (diindolylmethane), melatonin, and a product known as Relora, all of which can help restore homeostasis and ultimately optimize testosterone production inside the body. Other approaches include steering clear of plastic bottles, containers, and food wraps; avoiding the microwave, especially when plastic is involved; sticking with only organic and pesticide-free products; avoiding food out of cans, the lining of which typically contains bisphenol-A (BPA); using only paraben-free shampoo and body wash; and regularly detoxifying the body by exercising and using a dry or infrared sauna.

Just be sure not to overexert yourself in the exercise department, as this is another common cause of Low T, according to Mr. LaValle. Rest is important for proper testosterone production, especially for men who weight train or play rigorous sports. It is also important to make sure you get plenty of branched-chain amino acids and protein following a heavy workout.

Learn more: http://www.naturalnews.com/041060_Low_T_testosterone_sexual_health.html#ixzz2YUidrQJZ

Low testosterone often exists with other medical conditions:

Low testosterone often exists with other medical conditions:

• Depression: In a study of almost 4,000 men older than 70, those with the lowest testosterone levels were more than twice as likely to be depressed. This link remained even after allowing for age, general health, obesity, and other variables.
• Erectile dysfunction (ED): Problems with erections are one of the most common symptoms of low testosterone. Most ED is caused by atherosclerosis. Men with risk factors for atherosclerosis -- diabetes, metabolic syndrome, or obesity -- often have low testosterone, too.
• High blood pressure: The effects of testosterone on blood pressure are many and complex. Men with high blood pressure may be almost twice as likely to have low testosterone as men with normal blood pressure. On the other hand, too much testosterone can increase blood pressure. Testosterone acts in multiple ways on blood vessels, so this may account for the varying effects.

Obesity and Low Testosterone

Obesity and low testosterone are tightly linked. Obese men are more likely to have low testosterone. Men with very low testosterone are also more likely to become obese.

Fat cells metabolize testosterone to estrogen, lowering testosterone levels. Also, obesity reduces levels of sex hormone binding globulin (SHBG), a protein that carries testosterone in the blood. Less SHBG means less testosterone.

Losing weight through exercise can increase testosterone levels. Testosterone supplements in men with low testosterone can also reduce obesity slightly.

Metabolic Syndrome and Low Testosterone

Metabolic syndrome is the name for a condition that includes the presence of abnormal cholesterol levels, high blood pressure, waistline obesity, and high blood sugar. Metabolic syndrome increases the risk for heart attacks and strokes.

Studies show that men with low testosterone are more likely to develop metabolic syndrome. In short-term studies, testosterone replacement improved blood sugar levels and obesity in men with low testosterone. The long-range benefits and risks are still unknown.

Erectile Dysfunction: Supporting Your Partner

Erectile Dysfunction: Supporting Your Partner

Erectile dysfunction can take a toll on a relationship. It is important to show support and offer encouragement to your loved one with ED. In addition to encouraging your partner to seek medical treatment for his condition, you can help him deal with erectile dysfunction by offering emotional support. Here are some tips:

• Learn as much as you can about ED. Knowledge is power, so the more you know, the more you'll be able to support your partner. When seeking treatment, you and your partner should both agree on a method that best fits your lifestyle.
• Let your partner know that he's not alone. Remind him that ED is a fairly common and very treatable medical condition. ED is not a reflection on his masculinity or a lack of attraction or desire for you. You should also support your partner in any efforts to change his lifestyle (adopting a healthy diet, quitting smoking and the use of any recreational drugs, etc.) to deal with ED.
• Go with him to see the doctor. If your partner is agreeable, accompany him when he sees his doctor. This is another way to show that you're concerned and willing to work with him to treat his condition.
• Remind him that there are many options for successful treatment. If your partner does not succeed initially, encourage him to continue to visit the doctor and explore other options.

As a partner of a man with ED, you are also affected. Here are some tips to help you better deal with the situation:

• Discuss your feelings and let your partner know that you care.
• Stay positive. Talk about what you and your partner want and need, and how to achieve it.
• Try alternative techniques to obtain sexual satisfaction by finding other ways to obtain and receive pleasure without pressuring your partner to perform.

Viagra and its side-effects

Jul 6, 2010, 12.00am IST

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If you think Viagra and other erectile drugs are passport to satisfying sexual encounters, think again. Dr Mahinder Watsa warns you of their side-effects

It's a growing phenomenon to find all health related issues being prescribed a pill. Common cold, a mild headache, to generally feeling down and out, everything comes with a pill to snap you out of it. Sex then, is no exception. Increasingly, we find young men, with no apparent major sexual problem, taking to drugs meant to help the ones suffering from erectile dysfunction. To make matters worse, hardly anyone realise the adverse repercussions of such self-medication. A temporary boost in their sexual performance, may land their long-term wellness in jeopardy
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The fast food generation is slowly forgetting the art of love and depend excessively on easily available drugs to whip-up their flagging sex life. Scientists may credit Sildenafil as 'the magic bullet to help couples have deeper and more satisfying sexual encounters.' But the truth is, the drug doesn't cause an automatic erection. For it to be effective, mental and tactile stimulation and foreplay engagement is required.

Ask the pro

Vatsayana of the Kamasutra fame has suggested many ways to stimulate desire and performance for sexual happiness. He was innovative enough to come up with seven different ways of kissing, eight varieties of touch, four methods of stroking the body and eight sounds that may be emitted during sex and foreplay.

How can drugs, meant to delay ejaculation or correct erectile dysfunction, replace the bond that lovers feel when they touch, kiss, cuddle and care for each other?

Blame your priorities

A survey among youngsters revealed an interesting facet. In terms of priorities, a good career was ranked the highest (by almost 60 per cent), followed by social service (18 per cent) and then a happy marriage (13 per cent). If your priorities are lopsided how do you expect to be sexually satisfied? Sex and love aren't water-tight compartments in a marriage. One aspect invariably affects the other. If you don't make time for your lover, how do you expect to sexually and emotionally connect?

The risk

While overuse of any drug always comes with risks or side-effects, an over usage of Sildenafil can lead to a series of  side effects such as  headache and dizziness.

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 Many mistakenly believe that if they take a tablet, they will perform better. Just one failure at sexual intercourse (which is a perfectly normal occurrence) may land them in wrongly using an erectile dysfunction drug. If they improve their lifestyle, get rid of misconceptions, modify priorities and work on their attitude, chances are that they would never require such drugs.

The real reason

To be sexually happy, one needn't join the 'Erectile Dysfunction' club. One of the following could be your reasons for the occasional non-performance:

• Overeating and being obese

• Alcohol, smoke or drug abuse

• Guilt of an extramarital relationship

• Pressure to perform with an extramarital partner

• Overwork

• Anxiety and tension

• Lack of exercise

• Problems in your sex life can also be side-effects to certain illnesses and disorders. In such cases, relying on erectile drugs can only make matters worse. In many cases, diabetes or cardiac problems are discovered when the person complains of 'sexual problems'.

• At times, drugs that are meant to correct disorders, disrupt normal sexual functioning leading to dysfunction issues. For instance, diuretics, anti-hypertensives and anti-convulsants, etc are known to have adverse effects on one's sex life. As awareness grows, physicians are now being careful during the prescription stage itself. Various studies are being carried out to study the relationship between these drugs and one's sex life.

When it's actually needed

Erectile dysfunction drugs may be required temporarily to regenerate interest. The inability to get a good erection in a young man causes unnecessary anxiety and tension and can even lead to suicide in extreme cases.

side effects of sildenafil may include:

• warmth or redness in your face, neck, or chest;
• stuffy nose;
• headache;
• memory problems;
• upset stomach; or
• back pain.

This is not a complete list of side effects and others may occur. Call your doctor for medical advice about side effects.

If you think Viagra automatically works then u r wrong: VIAGRA only works when you are sexually aroused.Your partner has to stimulate you. You must not have any kind of fear or anxiety and must be fully relaxed. If your testosterone levels are low then Viagra will not be very effective. A fatty meal—like a cheeseburger and fries—can slow your body’s ability to absorb the drug. When this happens, VIAGRA may not work as quickly.WHEN TAKING VIAGRA, KEEP IN MIND:You must be SEXUALLY AROUSED for VIAGRA to work.

Sexual Pleasure with Impotence

Good things usually happen when an intimate couple sees a sex therapist.

What kind of tests might highlight the underlying causes of male impotence?

A blood test for diabetes should be performed along with cholesterol and triglyceride blood tests. It is becoming increasingly accepted among doctors that sex hormone levels (Testosterone) should also be checked by way of a blood test.

http://science.howstuffworks.com/viagra.htm

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-1317121/DR-ELLIE-CANNON-Viagra-fails-work-half-men--heres-why.html

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Advise by Alok to person seeking advise for Divorce

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rajkumar software engineer [ Scorecard : 24] PRO CHAT CALL 1 2 3 4 5 Thank Contributor : Send PM	Posted about 8 hours ago
	Hi , My name is rajkumar i am married on feb 2013 , this is my second marriage my first wife was died beacause of health problem. My second wife is a divorse. my second marriage was an arranged marriage only. After the first day of my marriage i feel my wife is not a matured girl. she is behaving like a 10 year child immediately i informed to her parents but they cried and convinced me and my parents. After 2 months now for each and every thing she is depending on me. She is treating me as her father i tried to explain her you are married girl so behave like a woman not like child. Her first marriage husband also not had a s*x with her. she avoided her and he always sleep alone and he never loved so after three months both the family had a discussion and got a mutual divorse. Now  I am every day getting mental torture from my wife. she is speaking the word same words repeatedly example she will tell goodnight for 5 to 6 times in 30 minutes. she is not changing her character if i lost my control she starts crying and repeatedely tells dont leave me i will change , i will change. Oneday she came with her father and brought all her jewels and went to his home. saying she is not ready to live with me. Now i am also not interrested to live with her. so kindly guide me. Share on linkedin
Alok Tholiya self employed [ Scorecard : 709] [edit] [edit photo]	Posted less than a minute ago
	I do not find any serious reasons for u to divorce and ruin home. To keep it happy home u need to approach immediately qualified Sexologist / andrologist/ urologist. On his giving clearance u have to approach relationship councillor a qualified MA psychologist or PHD psychologist.  Their age should be atleast 40+ as u need a proffessional who are not only well qualified but are also holistic and well expirienced.

Can this Peruvian herb improve Your Libido r sex life?

The Truth About Maca and Your Libido Can this Peruvian herb improve your sex life?

By Kathleen M. Zelman, MPH, RD, LD
WebMD Commentary

Maca, the Peruvian herb, generates lots of buzz about its reputed ability to boost libido.

It is revered in the ancient Incan culture for its many medicinal purposes. According to folk belief, it is a plant known for its legendary ability to deliver energy and mental clarity and enhance sex drive for more than 2,000 years.

Does Maca Live up to its Reputation?

Maca is an herb with plenty of anecdotal information about its usefulness passed down from generation to generation. But scientific evidence on its effectiveness is limited.

There are only a few randomized control studies showing some benefit. Researchers are looking at how it may help men and women with low libido. Some studies suggest it may improve semen quality, relieve symptoms of menopause, and reduce enlarged prostates.

A few animal studies have found maca is an aphrodisiac, but major studies are lacking on humans. A review of maca in the journal Current Sexual Health Reportsconcluded "there is no strong medical evidence to support its use for female sexual dysfunction."

Georgetown University Medical Center professor Adriane Fugh-Berman, MD, says, "Maca might have a positive effect on sexual dysfunction. Yet there are so many psychological and social aspects when measuring sexual healing that it is hard to be conclusive."  Berman is the author of 5-Minute Herb and Dietary Supplement Clinical Consult.

Claims that maca is a highly effective aphrodisiac may be exaggerated, Berman says. "Some claims are over the top -- compared to a placebo, maca only slightly enhanced sexual desire. The strongest evidence is that it may increase sperm count and improve fertility in certain men," she says.

Berman, who co-authored The National Women’s Health Network’s The Truth about Hormone Replacement Therapy, says there have been no clinical trials done on women regarding reduction of menopausal symptoms.

Although the evidence may be lacking, psychiatrist and functional medicine physician Hyla Cass, MD, says maca works. "In my practice, I have seen maca restore hormonal imbalance and related sexual desire and fertility in both men and women."

Chris Kilham, author of Hot Plants, says, "Maca enjoys a very long history of successful medicinal use for menopausal discomfort, infertility, and sexual healing. The question is not whether it works -- because we know it works with certainty -- but how it works".  

Maca is an Andean root, referred to as an herb. It's a starchy tuber that resembles a radish or a turnip but tastes more like a potato. Like other starches, maca contains carbohydrates, protein, fats, and dietary fiber. It is also rich in plant sterols and a good source of iron, magnesium, selenium, and calcium.

In Peru, out of necessity, maca has been a staple in the diet of men, women, children, infants, pregnant and lactating women, elderly, and the infirm. Only two crops grow in the higher elevations in Peru: potatoes and maca.

Maca can be cooked and mashed; mixed with milk; and dried, ground, and powdered into something that resembles flour that is used in breads, cakes, and cookies.

In the Andes, people typically eat about half a pound of maca daily, Kilham says.

Is Maca Safe?

A growing demand for maca has resulted in a wide variety of products both online and in health food stores promoted with claims of sexual health and stamina-enhancement. Maca claims, however, like claims for other dietary supplements, are not reviewed or approved by the FDA.

Kilham says the safety of maca is evidenced by the millions of people who subside on a diet of it without side effects.

Berman agrees that it is probably safe since there have been no reports of adverse effects from eating maca.

Maca may be a natural product, but talk to your doctor before taking any supplements. There are always potential side effects, including those from processing.

Kathleen Zelman, MPH, RD, is director of nutrition for WebMD. Her opinions and conclusions are her own.

Thanks and Regards,
Alok Tholiya,

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