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Sex and Romance: Working Together to Relight the Fire

If you’re experiencing erection problems, you’re probably not alone. Your spouse or partner is also affected. Fortunately, there’s plenty both of you can do to overcome ED and enjoy better and more intimate sex.

Get a Checkup

The first step when you begin to notice persistent problems getting an erection is to make an appointment to see your doctor. Erectile dysfunction is a vascular disease (a blood vessel problem) and often is associated with other vascular diseases such as diabetes, high blood pressure, or heart disease.
The ability to develop and maintain an erection depends on healthy blood vessels. When arteries become clogged with cholesterol or damaged by high blood pressure, blood flow into the penis can be impaired.
Men over 55 with erectile dysfunction have a 50% greater risk of developing heart disease than men without erection problems. Younger men with erection problems have an even higher risk of heart disease.

Tweak Your Diet

Smarter food choices can help reduce risk factors linked to erection problems, including high blood pressure and elevated cholesterol. As with many conditions, when more risk factors are present, they increase the risk of the disease.
The basic advice may be familiar, but many men still don’t follow it:

• Eat more fruits and vegetables – 5 to 9 servings a day.
• Consume less salt  by eating less processed food, which is often high in sodium.
• Eat more sources of lean protein.
• Cut back on red meat.
• Choose low-fat or non-fat dairy products.
• If weight is a problem, gradually trim your portion sizes.

Making changes in the way you eat isn’t easy, of course. When a couple makes healthy changes together, they improve the chances of success.

Lose a Few Pounds

Being overweight gets in the way of good sex in many ways. It can make a man feel less than sexy. And let’s face it, your partner may not find that beer belly so appealing either.
Obesity is also associated with lower than normal testosterone levels in men, which can cause a loss of sex drive. Consuming fewer calories by eating less and burning more calories by increasing physical activity are effective ways to lose weight.

Move It

Regular physical activity not only helps maintain a healthy weight, it also improves the function of heart and blood vessels. That, in turn, could help improve the quality of your erection. Some studies have indicated that men who exercise regularly have a reduced risk of erectile dysfunction. In addition, the more fit you are, the more energy you’re likely to have for sex. Finding activities to do with your partner can help strengthen your relationship and enhance your sense of intimacy.

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she will take care of u and ur family whole life with loads of love.

Posted a day ago
Hi friends, i have a problem facing with my wife (20 years old)  and from father, She has illness called lupus active, arthrities, and some mental issues (psycological treatment is on going), details married on feb 2011,no children, and after 6months she was diagnoised with the disease, thereafter she started therating that she will commit sucid, and now her father also supporting her, she cant bear if someone speaks to me, even my mother also, due to her argument my father loss his controll on bp and last his breath in sleep that night. and there after her father started to take the small issues like, If i say to work. another important issue is she cant be preagnent while on treatment and it may last for another 2-3 years, and she is not interested with any of protections to take care by me, so i try to keep her away on unsafe days but she forces me to have intercourse, which may harm her health severly, if i say that to her father they say its my mistake. Some time she kept her hand in electric water heater and her hand burnt, one day she kept her hand in boiling oil and taken immediatly to hospital, after losing my father my mother staying with me (i am only child in home) , now they dont want any one in my home including my mother (how can i), she sms me that she needs to die,while she or me away from home (my mistake is i not stored such sms). i ruined my carrer for her by leaving my loving job,  on all these mental issues i need a protection from her,and her family can any one suggest me the procedure to go on, if they know now this they may file harrasment case on me and my mother, I need a serious help on this ground Kindly ask me for further information to move on Share on google_plusone
V R SHROFF Sr. ADVOCATE Bombay High Court Mob: 9892432152 [ Scorecard : 15494] PRO CHAT CALL Click to call for free 1 2 3 4 5 Thank Contributor : Send PM	Posted about 21 hours ago
	You shd hv protected your job first. take her to psychiatic, get cert ify, then do needful
Alok Tholiya self employed [ Scorecard : 607] [edit] [edit photo]	Posted about a minute ago
	U hv not mentioned details of lupus active. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2724676/ Artheritisis not at all harmful, does not hv any side effects. It does not give one mental disorder.There r ppl who lived happily for decades with artheritis. 60% of male/ female want regulat s*x atleast at below 40 years of age. If on eis not getting then one is bound to get mentally disturbed.Choice before you: Get her counseling done by renowned doctor of her choice if medically she is supposed to not to have s*x. Even I do not trust your story, nither her father nor she herself. go to qualified s*xologist who can educate you for having satisfactory s*x. Go to good marriage counselor for improving trust  and with it relationship. Get good spiritual books, magazines, good friends and relatives, good yoga or similar spiritual activities like Brhmakumari to calm her down and increase both of yours bearing capacity, good time pass, change etc.. If u neglect and she commits sucide in 7 yers of marriage then u had it. If u divorce and u hv to run to courts , pay for DV, 498A, maintenance etc then too u had it. But if u live with her lovingly, take care of her, give her good time and s*x then she will take care of u and ur family whole life with loads of love. Alok Tholiya read: menow@yahoogroups.com http://menwomenrelationship.blogspot.in/ http://beautifulwe.blogspot.in/

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Discussion > Criminal Law > Dowry > Is there any way to save indian husband from being criminal?
	Is there any way to save Indian Husband from being criminal? From 498a, DP ACT 3,4 and DV ACt. From 498a and DV I believe not possible. From DP ACT 3,4 I believe it is possible if take help of some lawyer. I want to know this because in my second innings I do not want trap in all these false cases. Share on google_plusone Posted about 4 hours ago Your lucky dude.... Your a MAN... and MAN does not have any protection rights... PS: As a matter of fact even animals have protection rights.. Posted about 4 hours ago Your lucky dude.... Your a MAN... and MAN does not have any protection rights... PS: As a matter of fact even animals have protection rights.. Posted less than a minute ago Reply from Alok Tholiya Check u r physically fit to satisfy spiritually fit to bear tantrums smilingly financially fit to meet present days expectations parents do not and will not give ur truthful biodata in advance with expectations, renouncing dowery take photos and videos during marriage  that u did not ask / accept dowery have long premarriage time so both of u know each other and their family make good rapport with some of her friends and relatives so they understand you and side with you In case of need see marriage counselors In case of need see qualified s*xologists In case of need use detective eye

for deep bonding ....

 For deep bonding between spouses a  spirituality or good old memories or physical intimacy are must. Testosterone helps in good physical intimacy....And where all 3 exists (rare) then it gives birth to havenful of life....Alok

 

How Low Testosterone Affects Health, Mood, and Sex

Low Testosterone and Sex Drive

Testosterone isn't the only fuel for a man's sex drive and performance. But low testosterone can reduce your ability to have satisfying sex. Lack of sex drive and erectile dysfunction are sexual problems that can result from low testosterone. If low testosterone is the cause, treating it can help.

Testosterone and the Causes of Low Libido

Researchers haven't unraveled the mystery of just how testosterone increases libido. It's normal for a man's sex drive to slowly decline from its peak in his teens and 20s, but libido varies widely between men. What one man might consider a low sex drive, another might not. Also, sex drive changes within each man over time and is affected by stress, sleep, and opportunities for sex. For these reasons, defining what's a "normal" sex drive is next to impossible. Usually, the man himself identifies a lack of sex drive as a problem. Other times, his partner may consider it to be an issue.
Low testosterone symptoms don't always include feeling like you have no sex drive. Some men maintain sexual desire at relatively low testosterone levels. For other men, libido may lag even with normal testosterone levels. Low testosterone is one of the possible causes of low libido, however. If testosterone is lowered far enough, virtually all men will experience some decline in sex drive.
In a large study of men in Massachusetts, about 11% overall said they had a lack of sex drive. The researchers then tested all the men's testosterone levels. About 28% of men with low testosterone had low libido. These men were relatively young, with an average age of 47; older men might have worse sexual symptoms.
Low testosterone is only one of the causes of low libido. Stress, sleep deprivation, depression, and chronic medical illnesses can also sap a man's sex drive.

Low Testosterone and Erectile Dysfunction

Surprisingly, low testosterone by itself rarely causes erectile dysfunction, or ED. Low testosterone alone -- with no other health problems -- accounts for a small minority of men with erectile dysfunction.
Erection problems are usually caused by atherosclerosis -- hardening of the arteries. If damaged, the tiny blood vessels supplying the penis can no longer dilate to bring in the strong flow needed for a firm erection. Diabetes, high blood pressure, and high cholesterol are the three main causes of atherosclerosis and erectile dysfunction.
At the same time, low testosterone is a frequent accomplice to atherosclerosis in creating erectile dysfunction. In studies, as many as one in three men mentioning ED to their doctor have low testosterone. Experts believe that in men with other factors causing erectile dysfunction, low testosterone can strongly contribute, making a difficult situation even worse.
Strengthening the connection, low testosterone is linked in some way with many of the conditions that lead to erectile dysfunction:

• Metabolic syndrome
• Obesity
• Endothelial dysfunction
• Diabetes

Although low testosterone isn't known to cause them, the associations between other medical conditions and low testosterone can be significant.
Testosterone therapy improves sex drive and satisfaction with sex in many men. However, the long-term risks and benefits of testosterone replacement are unknown. Research trials on testosterone replacement in men are ongoing, although results are years away.

WebMD Medical Reference

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Reviewed by Brunilda Nazario, MD on June 12, 2012

© 2012 WebMD, LLC. All rights reserved.

And that is why one requires a good marriage relationship counselor

It is tragedy that we go to specialist for even smallest of smallest issues even if it is a harmless pimple. But when it comes to relationships we become our own specialist, or listen those who  are leaning on our side, are biased, inexperienced to handle their own issues.

In  damaged marriage relationship there r many issues:

1. It affects our and families reputation ( but if same is declared  irreparable like cancer of third stage by a renowned specialist then you have to go for surgery/ break the relations) 
2. It affects both psychologically
3. It affects their career
4. It affects psychologically their children
5. When sick, old or in distress then except spouse no one has time for you.
6. Financial  it can cost heavily
7. going out alone in parties and function is a big challenge
8. Many rituals one can't perform alone or it looks awkward

and so on...............so do not try to resolve your own issues but give a try to your relationship and let expert relationship/ marriage counselors work on it or let only they decide the fate. You must try second opinion if needed. Go to only qualified well known and thru personal reference and pay for their services too.
Also take written opinion and reasons for such opinion in writing. Dr Nathawat without hearing fully, without knowing full facts, without making detailed investigations just advised for divorce thru a crooked lawyer sitting in a false women organisation in Chembur. Dr Nathawat gave verdict in a one sitting even after charging heavily. So one must be cautious in dealing and relying on consultants and go for more opinions as these are life time issues and steps can not be on abrupt advises.
Normal surgeon is dealing with one person but a relationship counselor has to work on two families , so his responsible attitude, human nature ( as if dealing with his own daughter) , holistic approach, patience, persistence etc is required.Do not relay on a quack who sends you to operations theater in no time without thorough investigations,assistance of able  team , and lot of time.
Same is for clients. Have faith, have patience, keep open mind, be ready of many sessions, be ready for several psychological  tests, and even whole family may have to go for counseling to save a marriage.

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Physical fitness for is primary need of premarri age declaration

Institution of marriage can save family if any debility develop subsequently but at the time of marriage both have to be fit to fulfill each others physical needs. ....Alok fighting498a engineer [ Scorecard : 76] PRO CHAT CALL 1 2 3 4 5 Thank Contributor : Send PM Posted a day agoamily if arriage Hi All Experts, My friend's wife filed divorce based on impotency ground. Wife has medical report of private hospital. Is court treats impotency ground for divorce or annulment as the marriage is not consummed? In divorce petion wife filed marriage expenses of 6lakhs and 300 grams told to grant but this allegations are false as the marriage expenses was only 2 lakhs and gold is with wife only What steps should take to get marriage annulment?should we file counter case for annulment? the counter case need to file same court where wife files divorceor any where? Thanks in advance Share on google_plusone Adv. Bharat Chugh Advocate/Legal Consultant (bharat.law06@gmail.com) [ Scorecard : 9570] PRO CHAT CALL Talk to this Lawyer 1 2 3 4 5 Thank Contributor : Send PM Posted a day ago 1. If the husband is being accused of impotency and divorce being sought. He cannot file a divorce or annulment on the grounds of impotency because it is he who is accused of the same. 2. A private impotency report - would normally be corroborated by a goverment lab report by the court before relying on the same. 3. A wife is not entitled to what she or her family spent in marriage. 4. She'll have to prove each allegation and entrustment of ISTRIDHAN as well as subsequent misappropriation. Bharat Chugh Advocate Supreme Court of India Blog : www.advocatebharatchugh.wordpress.com, www.bharatchugh.wordpress.com Stay Connected on Facebook ! www.facebook.com/advocatebharatchughonthelawsofindia fighting498a engineer [ Scorecard : 76] PRO CHAT CALL 1 2 3 4 5 Thank Contributor : Send PM Posted about 23 hours ago Thanks Bharat sir husband is being accused of impotency The divorce petition was filed by wife under the grounds of impotence if this grounds of impotence comes under annulment grounds,whether court can pass annulment decree or divorse petition will close? Alok Tholiya self employed [ Scorecard : 597] [edit] [edit photo] Posted less than a minute ago Firstly if person was impotent then he had no right to marry a innocent girl and spoil joy and happiness of bride and his family. This is serious cheating and fraud and misrepresentation and deceiving . Sex is a basic human and animal instinct and a birth right. Only to make it disciplined, have a committed family behind everyone the insttution of marriage has been introduced. Basic foundation of such institution rests on honesty. The male in question was already aware that he is impotenet and deceived the girl side by not declaring vital facts. Nothing less then life imprisionment must be given to him and all those who knew that he is not fit to perform basic duty starting from first night. I feel he must own his own apologise to other party , give handsome compansation and help expiditing annulment. But knowing he had criminal bent of mind which made him deceive the innocent girl will not amicably settle the issue.

Motivation gives “Want To”, Training gives “How To”.

Motivation gives “Want To”, Training gives “How To”.
Combination produces "Result".

The quote above is very thoughtful, inspiring and true.

Training: One needs training in all sphere of life. But people think it is only driving / swimming which u have to learn. No! for personality, for success, for being a good parent, for being a good spouse, for successfully running a coop soc too u need a training. Sadly for becoming a Insurance agent u need to take a compulsory training but to be a industrialist / builder / hotelier there is only one pre condition that u should take a bureaucrat or politician as partner. Sadly there is no minimum qualification or training requirement for contesting elections. So we find all incompetent, psychopaths, illiterates, unskilled, untrained as ministers and our elected representatives. And their lack of skill, knowledge, experience, competence allows bureaucrats to exploit the situation / country fully. And we see the result daily and keep suffering as slave in this country. If there were people who knew how to manage ministries, staff, public relations, how to deliver results, how to tame bureaucrats then we would have surpassed China decades ago. But we r behind in all fields, our farmers r committing suicide, atrocities on women are order of the day (keep a red pen in hand while reading paper keep encircling the news of atyachar on women and u will see ur paper starts bleeding and do note that when 100 women, brides, girls are affected only one lodges complaint so what we see in news is only a tip of iceberg.

There is not a day when there is no news about rape, molestation, child abuse, bride burning, wife beating, gender discrimination, assault on women etc..

Why because our samaj and our ministers and our police and our Judiciary and worst is our media do not want to take any initiative in this direction as they r all active partner of system which encourages women abuse.

Women and their organization need training to live a risk free, secured, dignified life but is there any such programme?? From the school girls should be given compulsory training of marshal arts, identifying and dealing with men who are likely to abuse them physically and mentally etc etc . You need a Anna Hajare type movement or a very strong PIL in Supreme court to ask the government to act and not to sleep on everyday news of atrocities on women.

Unfortunately people are forced in to marriage without making them ready for it, making them aware of its risks and responsibilities. So many marriages are burden whole life, so many go in to depression, so many women in India have to commit suicide, so many others take divorce and millions others have sadly no guts to take divorce but keep suffering, keep getting beaten up, keep getting fired, insulted, tormented etc..

Why??? I think except Christian system/ churches there are no other community which has pre and post marital counseling. Worst is the cases of Jains where they talk of Ahinsa (non violence), preach for not hurting by word or deed but whole life they insult girl, wife, women, daughter in law. In all marwaris (I am one and know for sure) women are treated as second class citizen. Men in this society are born with idea that women are inferior, deserve bashing, rights curtailed, dowry demanded and girl side insulted whole life. As a bride side person you have to bow down, touch feet of groom side people, keep pleasing them as u r a slave, there is no equality between girl side and boy side. Worst is that forget a old women with misconception from boy side but even young educated girls, nanads ( sister in laws), educated software engineers, big businessman take pride in dominating, insulting, abusing girl side when they are a barati ( attending marriage as a guest and relative of groom). I have been witness to marriages where all type of conditions are put on girl side (all their dreams and ambitions to be fulfilled at the cost and nerves of girl side). No one feels sorry for insulting girl’s side during and after marriage. (Soon my son will be marrying and any sick minded double standard, ill-treating the members of girl side will be thrown out by me even if he is who’s who or closest relative. If they booze and become uncontrollable or even without boozing show animal instinct then they deserve to be in Zoo and not in my marriage party.

And except me today by this mail and earlier in several conversation no one specially Indian media has ever frowned on these silly inhuman customs of India specially of Marwaris, Haryanvi’s and in general north Indians. U see a talk show of filmies everyday on all channel, there r channels on religions but no talk show even on condition of girl side from the day a girl is born to her marriage day and even beyond. Even if girl is good, girl side has not done any thing yet sick minded people in the system will advise u to be calm, cool, bow down, surrender, and keep giving alms, etc etc as it is in our genes. There r no sisters with respect towards bhabhi/ bahu/ another girl born in any family who can slap a brother if wrong but girl is pressurized / sermoned/ punished and asked to bear.

So we find rightly so many nanadas too going to jail in bride burning cases. As not even educated well placed wearing modern clothes have courage to say dear brother or as the case may be to father or mother u r wrong. In our system only girl and girl side is wrong and they only have to bear and bow down and have to keep silent. I repeat this is a psyche in genes of even most MBA's, CA's, Engineers, lawyers, Judges, media, parliamentarians and hence this imbalance, ill-treatment and dominance is not the matter of discussion in Media, courts, parliament etc ..

I will stop here by saying even for improved relationships, like for improved career u need training. There r very many courses, centers , counselors everywhere now a days but hardly any participant as man think they r always right so no improvement required and women are brought up ( and all her parents too) with the idea that u have to live like slaves so they never feel a pinch and story goes on. Media which has so many women have never felt desire to rake up the issues like this as they are busy giving what sells and what sells is page 3 type and their mind too is page 3.

So in our poisoned mind there is no motivation to improve relationships, no need to give rightful place to girl thus so no want so no need to take training. And result is ....read again what is underlined.

Thanks and Regards,

Alok Tholiya
NB: For some curious I can recommend DR Hitesh Shah drhiteshshah@gmail.com / 09869035111 at Malad and DR Laxmipriya (09611991586) as certified by ALOK as best, dedicated, ethical relationship experts. However there are many more. FPAI and Council for sex education and parenthood international have many experts. At least all corporate can have courses on these topics.