Nagpur mental hospital patient returns as a doc

 

Nagpur mental hospital patient returns as a doc

Shishir Arya | TNN

Nagpur: She spent over two harrowing months in a mental hospital grappling with the feeling of having been abandoned and sharing a dormitory with other patients, many of them destitutes. The same hospital is now her workplace.
   For Dr Raksha Shah (name changed), it was a long and different journey
   In her thirties now, Dr Shah has been appointed medical officer at Regional Mental Hospital, Nagpur, after being discharged. The government-run hospital absorbed its own patient as a full-time employee to prove that patients cured of mental illness could be rehabilitated. She is working for six months now and her boss says she is doing fine.
   Every day, Dr Shah examines 60-70 patients in the OPD. Having undergone the trauma herself she understands their plight better. A broken marriage and a series of events had taken her there.
   She had to be treated for a couple of months. At the time, doctors found her intelligent. Her being a qualified medical practitioner led to the idea of accommodating her in the hospital itself. She did her MBBS from Topiwala Medical College and Nair Hospital, Mumbai, before her marriage 13 years ago. Now a confident Dr Shah wants to forget the past. She avoids answering questions about how things went wrong. "A particular situation makes one react like that. I had a fight with someone and my parents thought I needed treatment. I am fine now,'' she says. As she examines the patients, she says, "They can be easily cured if proper medication is taken and the family takes enough care. Their kin should help shed the stigma they carry,'' she says. She now tells her patients not to react to others' behaviour and not to underestimate themselves because of their condition.
   Asked how she felt during the treatment, Shah says, "Nothing much. I could adjust with other patients. Being a doctor I was used to being with people in such conditions.'' She now plans to complete her postgraduation in paediatrics that would allow her to begin practising as a child specialist.
   
Dr Raksha Shah (name changed) underwent therapy at a mental hospital in Nagpur after a broken marriage    

During the treatment, doctors found her to be intelligent and her being an MBBS gave them an idea
   
Shah is back at the hospital after discharge, this time appointed as a medical officer and is doing well

Top exercises for good sex

Sex therapies, Viagra or energy pills, yoga classes etc ... you may have tried countless ways to boost your sexual performance.

What not try routine exercises that can add spark to your sex life? Several studies have shown that fit adults have a more electrifying sex life than individuals who lead sedentary lifestyle.

Exercise not only piques sexual desire, but also makes sex more enjoyable. It enhances sexual functioning and increases testosterone levels in both men and women, which ensures a better sex life. We bring you a few simple (s)exercises that will not only enhance your performance in bed but also let you enjoy the act like never before.

Pelvic lifts : One of the most common and important exercises, it improves sexual performance by strengthening the pelvic area. It also helps in evoking powerful sexual feelings and enhancing your endurance. Vijaya Shetty, a clinical pathologist and a gym-ball trainer elucidates, "During any floor exercise, we train the core muscles and when a same thing is repeated again, it strengthens the body part being worked upon. As for sexual benefit, it's a fact that a strong body can sustain for long, so more the endurance of your pelvic muscles, the more you'll enjoy the prolonged act."

Technique : Lie on your back with your knees bent and slightly apart, feet flat on the floor and arms at your side. Inhale clenching in your stomach and hips and lift the pelvic from the floor until your back is straight. Hold this position for 10 seconds and exhale as you lower your body. Repeat this at least 4-5 times for desired results.

Another pelvic raise could be where you lie down on the bed and as you inhale, you raise your legs to a 90 degree angle. Then while exhaling, you pulse them towards the ceiling. For those, who can't take their legs up to this angle, they can just make an L-shape angle and push their legs upwards along with a proper breathing technique, thus making the abdomen and pelvic area very strong.

Kegel Exercise : Many might not know about the 'secret' muscles that are active during sex and by strengthening these, couples can enjoy intense sex. Kegels are very safe and simple and work on the entire pelvic floor area. Neesha Bukht Choksy, fitness trainer and a dietician confirms, "Kegel is basically a contraction of the internal muscles attached to the pelvic bones, so it tightens the vaginal muscles, helping women gain better control, prolong sex and reach orgasm more easily. It tightens the entrance of the uterus, which evidently enhances your gratification level during sex."

Technique : Contract your pelvic muscles and inhale as you squeeze (as though stopping urine), hold them for 5 seconds and release as you exhale. Start with just 10 or 20 squeezes. The best part is that you can do Kegel nearly anytime, anywhere. Try them while having your meals, sitting at your desk, talking to people or watching television, do at least 100-200 squeezes a day. It's very effective for women in their post delivery stage, as it tightens the loosened muscles."

Butterfly Stretch : Another important part that works actively during sex is the inner thigh area. During a butterfly stretch, the emphasis is on strengthening the inner thighs to make them flexible. Vijaya explains, "Apart from greater flexibility, as you stretch out your legs during this exercise, it's almost a similar position that you have during a sexual act."

Technique : Sit on the floor with your feet together, as the souls touch each other and the knees are kept apart. Try and take your feet as close as you can to your hips and use your elbow to push down your knees below, so that your inner thighs are under pressure.

Cat Pose : In addition to the lower area of the body, the abs and abdomen are also highly functional during sex. Cat Pose works well for the abs as throughout the exercise, you flex your abs. Neesha adds, "As you round your spine in both an inward and outward position during this exercise, you strengthen your abs a lot many times. Simultaneously, it also works on your back."

Technique : Lie down on the floor, arch your back with your head and abs dangling down (inward position), pull your abs inside to make them look nicely arched, and ensure that your belly is not hanging loose. Then reverse the pose by rounding the other way with your abs elevated and stretched out (outward position. In both the positions, you are on your fours (hands and feet) and the abs area is flexed.

Superman Pose : A gratifying sexual act needs a fit body and the lower back forms an essential area that needs to be stable. The Superman Pose works mainly on your lower back, as this is the most active body part for maintaining various postures. Vijaya explains, "As you are holding all fours (hands and feet) going against gravity, the full load to maintain the position makes the back muscles strong. If you're lower back has any problem, you'll frequently shift around to other side to be comfortable, so this exercise helps a lot and lets you enjoy more."

Technique : Lie down on the floor, place your hands in an upfront position, and raise the upper portion of the body as much as you can without putting any strain on any of the muscles. You can also raise your feet, so that only central part of your body is on the floor. It strengthens your lower back area.

Cardiovascular Workouts : Since sex is an act of endurance, improving cardiovascular fitness with exercises like walking, running, cycling or swimming helps both partners perform longer. Neesha states, "Cardio exercises help in improving blood circulation and works on the overall body muscles. For, women who stay dormant at home, these cardio exercises are really helpful, as it activates the entire body muscles. Cardio workouts also keep the heart and arteries healthy, thus reducing the risk of erectile dysfunction by ensuring a good flow of blood to the genital organs."

Technique : Anything such as running, cycling, jogging and swimming that ups your heartbeat rate is useful. Practice the cardio workouts for at least 30 minutes in a day. Apart from ensuring proper blood circulation to all body parts, it also tends to warm up your body. Factors like age, ailments, breathing rate and clinical history must be considered before practicing any cardiovascular exercise.

Regular Combo workouts : To have a satisfying sex experience, the body in totality needs to be fit. Hence, once can't ignore the benefits to be derived from routine exercises like crunches combined with push-ups and sit-ups. These not only help in a better physical appearance, but help in achieving better endurance. Neesha says, "The combo of these three regular exercises is really helpful, as it works on your shoulders, chest and abdominal area, all of which are active during sexual intercourse. By strengthening these muscles, you add to your stamina, which further adds to prolonged and more pleasurable sex."

Technique : Crunches in particular works on the upper and lower abdominal area by tightening them and adding more strength. Do at least 3 sets of 10 each for crunches. Push-ups and sit-ups are more relevant for men, as they need to be strong with their arm muscles. Do at least 4 sets of 10 each for sit-ups and push-ups, taking a little break between the two workouts.

Read more: Top exercises for good sex - The Times of India http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/3784416.cms?prtpage=1#ixzz0zQvKyWMU

why respect your family, neighbours, ..and why go to temple???? cause u dont wont to die as rotten fish near whom no ones come..

 

There r many ( people living in unrealistic world)  who just spend time with TV, movie, friends  who r spiritually in minus and become a psychic case as there mental development stops rather becomes retarded and they r just lustful, funful, career minded but can not remain ethical, trustworthy,faithful,dependable as their character is weak. Even those who visit temple everyday does not mean they r spiritually alive, enlightened. It may be that they r going to temple only as beggar to seek alms ( god give me this or that) , to wash their sins ( they live in fools paradise as they think they can do what they like outside and come inside of temple and god will pardon them. So go to temple to make you strong in character, moral, spirit, ethics etc. and make collection of good Karma's ( but many spend time and money in collection of good shirts or sarees).

And what happens to those who r not so, in detail some other time but I have seen in lodging house run by my grandfather that there were people who came from distant places to Mumbai, made friends for fun and frolic, lived in style and they were so surrounded with glamour that they cut off from family and dependable friends and finally when long sickness, poverty struck them then no friends , relatives visited. They were doing all their potty urine on bed had nothing to eat ( Parveen Bobby, many other celebrities  story is similar) , no one to take care. But occssionally some spiritually alive would come and help from neighbourhood and social workers.And not so spiritually alive who left them in distress came to collect their belonings when they died ( many claimants have cropped up when Parveen Bobby died alone in her flat unnoticed and uncared for long and case is on to claim every penny she left).So one may be surrounded with fans when it is your time ( which is always limited) but being not in  committed relationship the same fans leave you like bird leaves a sinking ship. So for realistic life listen to Tarun sagarji, Vidhyanandji, Osho, and many other good saints like Kabir etc, listen to kadva / bitter friends and live life simple , meaningful and truthfdul. High order but achieveable.

 

 

 

Why go to the Temple???


 

DEAR ALL, MAY GOD BLESS  EACH & EVERYONE, LOVE & BLESSINGS  
 

If you're spiritually alive, you're going to love this!
If you're spiritually dead, you won't want to read it.
If you're spiritually curious, there is still hope!  

Why Go To The Temple ?

A 'devotee' wrote a letter to the editor of an indian newspaper and complained that it made no sense to go to the Temple . 'I've gone for 30 years now, he wrote, and in that time I have heard something like 3,000 mantras.

But for the life of me, I can't remember a single one of them. So, I think I'm wasting my time and the Gurus are wasting theirs by giving services at all.

This started a real controversy in the 'Letters to the Editor' column, much to the delight of the editor. It went on for weeks until someone wrote this clincher: I've been married for 30 years now. In that time my wife has cooked some 32,000 meals.
 
But, for the life of me, I cannot recall the entire menu for a single one of those meals. But I do know this... They all nourished me and gave me the strength I needed to do my work.
 
If my wife had not given me these meals, I would be physically dead today. Likewise, if I had not gone to the Temple for nourishment, I would be spiritually dead today!

When you are DOWN to nothing.... God is UP to something! Faith sees the invisible, believes the incredible and receives the impossible!

Thank God for our physical AND our spiritual nourishment! All right, now that you're done reading, send it on!!! I think everyone should read this!! 'When Satan is knocking at your door, simply say,

'God , could you get that for me?!!' 
 

Thanks and Regards,
Alok Tholiya (S.E.O) M:9324225699

Impotency as divorce ground rises article in todays TOI

Dear Swatiji,

TOI,

Mumbai

 

Namaskar.

 

Thanks for a very informative and useful article . I have some humble suggestions:

1. In such articles also take opinion of sexologists and relationship experts. They can throw light on importance and need for physical relationship and intimacy in marital relationships.
2. Interview some litigants that how it really means in marriage to be without physical relationship.
3. Prepare a nice and useful article for those abt to me married/ marriageable age for things to be considered / weighed before entering a marriage to avoid discord and leading to divorce. Divorce has very bad effect on whole family of both sides but specially girls side. If newspapers can create awareness beforehand on several issues then may be many marriages can be avoided and thus divorce can be also avoided.

Alok Tholiya

9324225699

 
 

 

 

Impotency as divorce ground rises

More Couples Citing Sexual Inability As Quick Way To Get Out Of Marriage

Swati Deshpande | TNN

Mumbai: Is impotency on the rise in Mumbai It may seem so,given the rising number of women filing for divorce on grounds that their marriage was never consummated.
Recently,a doctor couple married for four years approached a city lawyer,seeking divorce.The reason: she said he was impotent;the husband,though,claimed he did not feel attracted to her and hence the lack of sex.
There is a definite increase in the number of cases where woman are seeking a divorce or annulment of marriage on the grounds of its non-consummation.Often,we advice them to settle the case mutually, said advocate and veteran womens activist Flavia Agnes.Another lawyer said that at times other reasons are inserted into divorce applications since proving impotency can prove tough.
Young couples barely ten months into their married life are basing their split on grounds of impotency.Recently,a newly married woman was sent back from the US by her husband who wanted to end the marriage.He was just not interest in doing it,she said.
Does that mean the capacity to perform sex constitutes the core of a matrimonial relationship Matrimonial law says it does.According to legal provisions,the physical and mental capacity to consummate a marriage is an essential condition for its validity.
Under the Hindu Marriage Law,impotency is a ground for annulling a marriage.Even under Special Marriage Act,which applies to inter-faith marriages,mere wilful refusal on part of either spouse to have sexual intercourse is reason enough for annulment.
An annulment for non-consummation has to be necessarily within a year from the date of marriage.Lack of sexual contact extending beyond a year has to be cited as mental cruelty,which is a ground for divorce,but cannot make the marriage void.
Divorce lawyer Mrinalini Deshmukh said that,though annulment applications have gone up in Mumbai,at times impotency is used as an excuse by the couple since it is the quickest way out of an unwanted marriage.Just last week,she said,three annulment applications had been filed by women married for less than two months.
Another reason,Agnes said,impotency is often being used in divorce courts is because men are just not attracted to their wives or some times their sexual preferences are different.The recent favourable judgment on consensual same-sex couples is making couples talk more openly about their preferences and they want to end their forced heterosexual relationships, Agnes said.
But while impotency is a ground to end marriage,proving it is a tall order.According to law,impotency may arise on account of a physical defect or mental condition.It says the condition should be should be incurable and the allegation has to be strictly proved.

 

REACTION VS RESPONSE

 

Once you become comfortable with cockroach then your response changes. So become comfortable with all includes all is even bad people around you.  Similarly become comfortable will life with all its mighty good,bad and ugly changes and surprises.

 

 

REACTION VS RESPONSE

Suddenly, a cockroach flew from somewhere and sat on a lady. I wondered if this was the cockroaches response to all the glory that was spoken about it!

She started screaming out of fear. With panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach. Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group got cranky to what was happening. The lady finally managed to push the cockroach to another lady in the group.

Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama. The waiter rushed forward to their rescue. In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter. The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behaviour of the cockroach on his shirt. When he was confident enough, he grabbed and threw it out with his fingers.

Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behaviour? If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed? He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.

It is not the cockroach, but the inability of the ladies to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach that disturbed the ladies.

I realised even in my case then, it is not the shouting of my father or my boss that disturbs me, but its my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me. Its not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me. More than the problem, its my reaction to the problem that hurts me.

The Take-Away : The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.

We should not react in life, we should always respond. Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always intellectual.

all of marriageable age must read this

http://voiceofwomenindia.blogspot.com/search/label/
 

Thanks and Regards,
Alok Tholiya (S.E.O.),Marigold Hall,
Tholiya Bhavan,10th Road,Santacruz East,
Mumbai 400055
M:9324225699
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your spouse is a cheater if .....

 

 

Con-artists takes full advantage of poor enforcement of laws in India. They marry women in India and have relations with another women to exploit them and not for a loving marriage. If you believe that your relationship is full of all secrecy due to a bigamous nature, there is no hope that it can ever be a loving marriage to you. That marriage can be for a specific exploitation purpose. If you see symptoms like the following:
1. spouse keeps most of the matters secret from you.
2. spouse lies to you frequently.
3. spouse does not allow you to receive incoming phone calls.
4. spouse doesn't allow you to answer/touch his/her cell phone.
5. spouse doesn't introduce his/her family members and friends to you.
6. marriage is not consummated and spouse is not interested in a physical relationship with you due to guilt
7. spouse keeps expenses charged to joint financial accounts secret.
8. spouse harassing for your income for mortgage and bill payments and threatening you.
9. spouse spreading false allegations against you and claiming him as a victim of mental cruelty.
10.spouse comes home late every night for no believable reason.
11. spouse doesn't walk, talk, dine, sleep, care or share for anything with you.

12. spouse is cold to relationship and does not care for your feelings, health

13. spouse is not giving enough money to run the house,not making the wife joint holder in house, bank other places means the intentions r differant etc etc

These may be classic signs of deception.

There is no reason to work as a slave in that house. Most women may hope that they would have a healthy, normal marriage one day and may keep working hard, cooking, cleaning after working outside of the house for 8-10 hours at their own jobs despite of not getting any love or respect in their marriage. The bigamous nature of a marriage will never change and we must stop the root cause and avoid anyone in that situation. People don't know they are marrying anyone with a pre-existing spouse and ruining their life. So, deceiving person must be punished.  
 

Thanks and Regards,
Alok Tholiya (S.E.O.),Marigold Hall,
Tholiya Bhavan,10th Road,Santacruz East,
Mumbai 400055
M:9324225699
My favorite quote: Work hard to get what u like...or else....U ll b forced to like what u get!
My links and blogs : ONLY AUTHENTIC FREE MATRIMONIAL WEBSITE FOR DIGAMBAR JAINS: www.digambarjains.com/
For Issues of Sr. citizens : http://varishthanagrik.blogspot.com/
Issues of Public interests : http://aloktholiya.blogspot.com/
For harassed litigants : http://litigants.ning.com/
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