She's beautiful and she's mine."

Every woman deserves to have a man
who is proudly willing to say to the
whole world, "Yeah, that's my one and
only. She's beautiful and she's mine."

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  Ramakant Gupta so sweet

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  Alok Tholiya Superb lines. Excellent. May devil in many men vanishes and they say like this to their lady.Though this is not conditional but yet lady should also endeavour to be that loving.The ground reality is that not many men women are this lucky but such saying help.

The emphasis when there is a marriage in family is on big wedding event, costly clothing, best honeymoon destinations etc etc.. But inspite of everything going best many a times marriage breaks and in many other times though they live together but are not happy. So to make marriage successful what family , friends must ensure is that bride and groom under go spiritual, sextual and relationship counseling. here Dr Sah is discussing sextual and relationship challenges before newly weds.

Courtesy: https://www.icliniq.com/health-articles/health-topics/sexual-health/counseling-for-newly-weds

Dr.Purushottam Sah
Sexologist, Obstetrician And Gynaecologist, Andrologist, Infertility Specialist

Counseling for Newly Weds

Published By: Dr.Purushottam Sah. 
Published In: Sexual Health

Published Date: 10.Apr.2015

Most people enter the marriage life with unrealistic expectations of a dream life influenced by some popular songs and movies. But soon their dreams are shattered and their married life gets ruined before it takes off.

Ideally, couples should seek premarital counseling before getting married. However, some married couples wait until they have problems, in that case they should seek ‘marriage counseling for newly weds’. They can also seek such counseling, even if they have no issues, to make the marriage life better.

How Do Marriage Counselors Help?

• Marriage counselors talk with the married couples to either help them handle marital problems or to make their married life better. Marriage counselors help the couple inconflict resolution skills and communication skills.

• A marriage counselor may talk with the couple together or may talk with each one individually.

• Doing this allows each spouse to feel comfortable about expressing their feelings.

• Most often newly weds are advised by friends and family members.

• Such advice may not be reliable and be prejudiced.

• It must be understood that the couple are individuals who have lived different life styles but, after marriage they live together.

• They were brought up differently, have different personalities, habits and attitudes, which clash when they live together.

• This leads to problems which can be solved by counseling.

Communication Skills:

• Talking with each other is the most important thing for a happy married life, it solves many problems.

• The couple can talk about the day’s activities.

• They should talk about their interests, about their life experiences, friends and anything under the sun.

• Listening to the spouse is as important as expressing one’s thought.

• While talking no negative comments should be made and one should listen to the spouse’s talk and encourage her/him to talk.

Bringing in Variety:

• Couple should not get caught up in routines.

• They can bring variety by dressing differently, talking on various topics, listening to a song together or just by taking a walk.

• Attention should be paid towards the spouse and a compliment often does wonders.

• The couple should look good to each other and ask the spouse about her/his preferences.

• The sexual act should be taken as a play and not as a duty. 

Give Some Freedom:

• Just because one is married, it does not mean one should expect from the spouse to abandon everyone and everything that existed in life before marriage.

• The spouse should be given time and space to interact with friends and family and also to pursue their career and interests.

• One should not try to ‘control’ the spouse.

• Both the partners have to make adjustments to make their spouse comfortable.

Regarding Conception and Pregnancy:

•  Young couples should wait at least one year to have children. This gives them time to build a good foundation for a family.

• The couple get closer and will have the maturity to resolve any problems or any serious issues before bringing a child into their life.

• To delay the child birth, the couple should use contraceptives and the best contraceptive for newly weds is Oral Contraceptive Pill (OCP).

• As the frequency and timing of intercourse is uncertain in newlyweds, the OCP gives protection round the clock.

• The woman should be medically examined to see if she is fit to take OCP.

• Misconceptions about OCP are much prevalent, but it is one of the safest drugs.

• It has been used by millions of women all over the world for more than half a century.

• In any case it is much safer than taking abortion pill for unwanted pregnancy.

• Condom can be used as a regular contraception too, but the cost and failure rate is higher, and it may not be available at the time of need.

How Do Sexual Problems Develop?

• Sex is a vital part of the marriage relationship.

• Most of the problems arise when the sex life is not satisfying for both partners.

• If there are physical problems affecting the performance, one should consult a doctor and discuss the situation along with the spouse.

• The stress and strain of everyday life can distract the couple and steal away the leisure and pleasure from the marriage life.

• Couples should keep some time for each other and learn to relax in each other’s company.

• Most of the sexual problems in newly weds are due to misconceptions and lack of knowledge about sex.

• Usually the couple learn about sexual behavior from friends and quite often the information is wrong or inflated.

• There is no rule for sexual activity, each couple is different and what is good for one may not be good for another.

• One golden rule is not to compare self with others.

• In most cases the husband cannot develop satisfactory sexual relationship due to lack of knowledge, communication gap and due to anxiety.

• It may also happen if the wife’s vaginal opening is tight.

• Both the partners should be examined and treated.

• Common sexual problems are lack of penetration and quick ejaculation (premature ejaculation). Both the conditions can be treated easily with drugs and counseling.

Some Misconceptions about Sexual Relationship:

• Frequent sexual activity is needed in young couples: The frequency of sex depends on the mutual understanding and may not be much frequent. The couple should discuss and make adjustments with the spouse.

• Small penis size decreases performance: The small size of male organ is a very rare occurrence and the size does not matter if performance is adequate.

• Pain and Bleeding should occur in the first attempt: Pain and bleeding are not essential on the first attempt of sexual intercourse. It may happen or may not happen. It is no indication about the virginity of the wife.

Benefits of Counseling for Newly Weds:

• Couples learn the communication skills to resolve conflict in a healthy manner and how to state their needs clearly and openly without resentment or anger.

• Marriage counseling offers a safe environment for expressing any unhappiness the couples feel. Getting the feelings out with a trained professional is of great help.

• Physical relationship skills needed to maintain a fulfilling marriage could be learned. A marriage counselor can teach the couple those skills while monitoring the progress with couple’s feedback.

The couple should not wait too long to seek a marriage counselor. Even if the couple feel it is too late and no amount of counseling will help they should still seek professional help. Doing so will keep the couple from making a mistake that they may regret later. 

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Nutrients That Boost Testosterone Levels

Thanks to: http://www.onegreenplanet.org/natural-health/plant-based-foods-that-boost-testosterone-in-the-body/

Testosterone levels are important for both men and women to consider, not just to buff up and stay strong, but also to support our body’s natural growth hormone, a key hormone to keep our bodies youthful and energized. Testosterone also supports our libidos, our mood, and our levels of motivation and drive. Though women don’t want too much testosterone, a little is actually important to ward off excess estrogen that can lead to depression, weight gain, hormonal changes, or just an overall imbalance of sex hormones in the body. And men, of course, are always looking to improve their testosterone levels to help build muscle, staystrong, and support their male livelihood that the big T word is often associated with.

Nutrients That Boost Testosterone Levels

Key nutrients needed to boost testosterone in the body are: amino acids (protein), zinc, B vitamins, omega-3 fatty acids, and an overall anti-inflammatory diet. These nutrients are found in both plant-based and animal-based foods, but there’s no reason to think that one needs to eat steak, eggs, chicken, fish, or drink milk to boost testosterone. In fact, many animal-based foods can actually increase estrogen in the body, which lowers testosterone and can lead to some negative side effects due the estrogen coming from animals that have hormones our bodies weren’t meant to consume.

Regardless that animal-based foods and dairy-based protein powders or supplements are promoted to boost testosterone levels, in some studies vegans have actually been found to have higher levels of testosterone than meat-eaters or even vegetarians. The best part is, they also had less cancer risks due to the removal of animal proteins in their diets.

To boost your testosterone without the risks of eating animal-based foods, here are some of the best plant-based options that you’ll want to add to your daily menu if you can. These are delicious proof that you can boost testosterone in the body without having to eat animals to get your fill!

1. Pumpkin Seeds

Pumpkin seeds are packed with zinc, a crucial mineral needed for optimal testosterone levels. Zinc keeps the sex organs healthy and promotes a healthy metabolism that assists with the conversion of certain hormones. They’re also great sources of tryptophan, an amino acid that helps the body produce more serotonin, which helps balance your hormones even further. These alkaline green seeds are also one of the most overlooked sources of plant-based protein, iron, and are great sources of healthy omega-3 fats.

2. Coconut

Coconut’s a great food to boost your muscle-growth, promote lean body mass, and balance your body’s hormones including testosterone. How so? It’s a great source of healthy saturated fats, which most people think they need to avoid, but when eaten from plant-based sources, is actually helpful in moderate amounts. How so? Saturated fats are necessary for testosterone production and they support the body’s ability to make cholesterol without having to consume added dietary cholesterol from animal-based foods. A few tablespoons of raw coconut butter, shreds, coconut milk, or fresh coconut meat are all you need to support your body with this healthy source of fat. It’s still a good idea to limit all sources of saturated fats to 10 percent of your daily diet and not rely on them alone.

3. Maca

Maca is a fabulous food for boosting and normalizing or improving your hormones. It canboost the libido and improve mood in both men and women, and is fantastic for reducing stress levels that can interfere with healthy testosterone levels. Maca is also great for boosting your energy to help you exercise, which boosts testosterone in return. When you workout, especially when you lift weights, you naturally boost your testosterone levels, which makes maca a great superfood to use on all counts. Working out and maca also both support your body’s production of growth hormones that supports your metabolism and keeps the body youthful.

4. Avocado

Also a libido-boosting food, this fruit’s healthy fats and high levels of vitamin B6 both reduce cortisol and improve testosterone production. They also support the metabolism and overall mood function. Avocados’ fats also reduce high levels of unhealthy cholesterol levels (LDL) that interferes with the production of testosterone. Animal-based fats raise high levels of LDL while plant-based fats lower LDL and improve levels of good cholesterol (HDL). See more plant-based foods with good levels of cholesterol that can also support your hormones here.

5. Chia Seeds

Chia seeds directly boost testosterone levels in the body due to their amazing essential fatty acid (EFA) profile. They’re a great source of omega-3 fats, along with other anti-inflammatory fats. Chia seeds are also a great source of potassium, zinc, iron, magnesium that support your metabolism, blood pressure, blood sugar, and mood. These nutrients are also necessary for optimal energy and hormone production in the body. Hemp seeds are also amazing for your hormone levels and they contain more protein, iron, and magnesium than chia seeds do.

Other great foods to support your body’s hormones that contain omega-3 fatty acids, natural protein, and vitamins and minerals are: almonds, walnuts, cashews, flax seeds and olives. You can also add more vegan libido-boosting foods to your diet to improve your hormones even further. As you can see, there’s no whey or steak needed here. Add a few servings of these five foods to your day and you’ll be well on your way to healthier T levels in no time!

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